Warning: Graphic Language is in this blog, if you get offended easily I strongly suggest that you don't read!!
This time this entry is going to be more than just a blog, it's going to border on book review. I, like millions of other women out there, finally read the Fifty Shades Trilogy and am now obsessed with these books. How do I know that millions of others are reading it too you ask? These books have held the top four sales spots for book sales for the past few months. Maybe even longer, I really don't know for sure. All I know is that these books are amazing and I think every woman on the planet needs to indulge herself and read them!!!
I honestly don't remember where I heard about Fifty Shades but I was ultimately interested when I heard that it started out as a fan fiction based off of the characters of Twilight. ( If you have been following and reading this blog I have randomly dropped hints that I am a Twilight fanatic as well.) So I, like any other person, googled this information and found the fan fiction in question. Now, for those of you who have no clue what fan fiction is, I will enlighten you. Fan Fiction are stories that fans of books or movies have created to either put their own twist on the same story, take the story further than the book/movie did or use the same characters as the original but make the story their own. This is what E.L. James did with the Fifty Shades Trilogy. She took the characters from Twilight and wrote them into her own story. When she decided that she wanted more than just a post on a web site she changed a few things, the characters names and BOOM!! Fifty Shades Trilogy is born!! Halleluiah!!!!!! Mommy Porn is born!!!! After reading the fan fiction aptly named Master of the Universe, I had to read the books.....the obsession was born.
The whole story stars out with a young college girl, Anastasia Steele, who gets stuck doing an interview with a handsome, young business mogul, Christian Grey, as a favor to her flu ridden roomate. Anastasia is immediately taken with Christian but denies her feelings until she is asked to coffee by Christian at a photo shoot she arranged so there would be photos to go with the interview that was going to be published in the college paper. At this point the lurid yet delicious affair between Christian and Anastasia begins leaving women everywhere wanting their own Christian Grey.
SPOILER ALERT!!!!!! If you haven't read the books yet and don't want to know what happens until you do I suggest that you close this page out now.....For those of you still with me....Time to get freaky!!!! What makes the affair and eventual relationship between Christian and Ana so delicious and keeps us wanting more is the forbidden nature of it. Christian is waaayyyy into BDSM. If you don't know what that is think whips, paddles and handcuffs mixed with awesome sex. There is more to it of course but well, you get the idea. Then a shocking truth is revealed, Ana is a virgin. This a truth that readers and Christian weren't expecting, but being the sexy and irresistible man that he turns out to be he remedies that situation with Ana's full consent. This is all after he reveals his intentions, makes her sign an NDA, and shows her what is affectionately referred to as the "red room of pain." As Ana looks around this room she promptly thinks "it feels like I’ve time-traveled back to the sixteenth century and the Spanish Inquisition." I will leave out the details of what she saw in this room but what was seen scared her and turned her on all at the same time. And so the sexy, torturous love affair between the submissive and her dominant begins, leaving all of us exploring the possibility that we want to maybe try out the "red room of pain." The sex scenes are plentiful with every woman wishing that they had sex 10 times a day and their boyfriends/husbands wondering where the sudden jump in their partners libido is coming from but not complaining because, well they're guys and sex occupies their minds ALL THE TIME. This wonderfully sexy novels do have a story line to them, everything from Ana overcoming a couple of Christians previous partners to an obsessive ex-boss that tries to kill them both. In the end, Ana finally gets her happily ever after.....Married to Christian and at the very end pregnant with her second child. Swoon!!!!!!!
I loved every second of these books and don't recommend reading them unless you have a boyfriend, husband or even a fuck buddy. They will turn you on and you will want to have sex. If you read them and don't have one of those three humans I have mentioned above well you know what other options you have, either go without and deal with the feelings of desire and sexiness or take the route that every man takes and rub one out!!! (Although that doesn't always help either. ) This book is gonna make you want to as Christian Grey said to Ana " I don't make love...I fuck...hard." Trust me, I did. My libido was on overdrive in the four days that I was reading these books. My husband didn't complain. (obviously, what man would while they have a woman so crazed with desire that they have the urge to fuck him every which way from sunday.) E.L James did a fantastic job reaching into every woman's brain and pulling out those innermost, forbidden fantasies that none of us will ever really do and putting it on paper for us to read about. Men have their Playboys and Hustler and Porn, we have Christian Grey in unbuttoned, ripped jeans with a riding crop!!!! Face it ladies, as strong willed and independent as we think we are we all wanted Christian to dominate us at some point and time, and would have let him do ANYTHING he wanted.
So in closing, READ THESE BOOKS!!! Get lost for a few hours in the sexy world that E.L. James created for us and if needed get to know yourself a little better!!! Until next time..........
Saturday, June 23, 2012
Saturday, May 5, 2012
Ahhhh.....Young Love......*Sigh*
I was sitting at work with my friend Stephanie and One Time by Justin Beiber came on my ipod that we were listening to. Yes, I can hear all the dreaded gasps and comments of "OMG you have Justin Beiber on your iPod!!!!" Yes I do. Just that one song. Why do I have just that one song? I think its cute. it was done before his voice changed so he still has that cute teenager voice and the song is about teenage love. While listening to the song I looked at Stephanie and I told her my realization: Love is never truer than it is when you are 15 years old. Don't get me wrong love is very true when you are older as well but its not the same kind of love.
When you are 15, if you're anything like me, it's usually the age you start seriously dating and that first real boyfriend comes into the picture. (Some of you may have started out sooner but I didn't....late bloomer I guess) With that first boyfriend comes all the things that go with a first love. The constant butterflies, the hourly, lengthy phone conversations, the dread of being away from that other person for more than a few minutes and the snuggling. In my case, that first real kiss came into the picture. (like I said, late bloomer) Nothing else in the world matters but you and that other person. No complications of cheating, sex, or any other obstacle that you have to defend yourself against when you are in a more mature relationship. Everything is all bubblegum and rainbows. You make each other cards on valentines day and your boyfriend doesn't mind getting a cute little teddy bear that says I love you on it. Sitting with each other on the couch holding hands and cuddling is all you need to keep you safe and happy. During the school day you pass notes to each other in the hallways proclaiming how much you love that other person and how you would just simply die with out them. The kisses are sweeter, softer and mean so much more than any thing you have ever felt. They leave you feeling giddy and wanting more. The love between you two is pure and uncomplicated. Its sometimes the only time in your life that you can truly be with someone and not be anyone but who you are. That other person loves you for you and no other reason. Then the hormones of the lovesick teenager kick in.....and this is where EVERYTHING get screwed up.
Nothing ruins a wonderful first love better than sex. At 15 or 16 we have all these racing hormones and desires and don't have a clue what the hell to do them. This is where we get the bright idea or ruining a good thing with sex. 90% of the time its the boy that mentions it. They then leave it up to the girl if they are going to have sex or not. Some guys pressure and others are very calm about it. What we don't realize at this age is that sex is wonderful and horrible all at the same time. It's wonderful because it makes you feel good and brings you closer to that other person. If you are truly in love it will bring you closer and make you fall even harder for that person. The bad side to it is that it complicates things by making the little things like holding hands and making out not mean as much as it used to. Before you has sex those things were enough to calm the desires for that other person, now it doesn't work as well as it used to and sex is the only way to quench this desire. This leaves a lot of young couples thinking that the only reason they are together is because of the sex because they forget the real reason they fell in love in the first place. The fighting begins and the cute teenage relationship turns into World War III. Break-ups ensue and you sometimes never talk to that person again.
As you grow up, you find someone that brings the butterflies again. Even though they aren't the same butterflies that you got at 15, they are still the ones that tell you that you like and could love this person you've met. Through out your courtship, the hand holding, making out, and cuddling happen but the way all of these made you feel at 15 is lost and the more mature desire kicks in. The love making happens and the falling in love begins. The butterflies disappear but a stronger feeling of love and attachment kicks in and even though its not the same love as it was when you were 15 its just as strong. Eventually you will get married and maybe have a family. The relationship between you and your husband is strong and you could never imagine yourself with another man, but one day while you are just sitting alone or cleaning up your first love will pop into your head and you will reminisce about the days when things were simple and just a kiss would give you butterflies.
So in closing all I have to say is this......Even though you are perfectly happy with your marriage or relationship that you are in its OK to remember a simpler time when kisses meant more and a hand holding yours would give you those happy butterflies.....until next time.......
When you are 15, if you're anything like me, it's usually the age you start seriously dating and that first real boyfriend comes into the picture. (Some of you may have started out sooner but I didn't....late bloomer I guess) With that first boyfriend comes all the things that go with a first love. The constant butterflies, the hourly, lengthy phone conversations, the dread of being away from that other person for more than a few minutes and the snuggling. In my case, that first real kiss came into the picture. (like I said, late bloomer) Nothing else in the world matters but you and that other person. No complications of cheating, sex, or any other obstacle that you have to defend yourself against when you are in a more mature relationship. Everything is all bubblegum and rainbows. You make each other cards on valentines day and your boyfriend doesn't mind getting a cute little teddy bear that says I love you on it. Sitting with each other on the couch holding hands and cuddling is all you need to keep you safe and happy. During the school day you pass notes to each other in the hallways proclaiming how much you love that other person and how you would just simply die with out them. The kisses are sweeter, softer and mean so much more than any thing you have ever felt. They leave you feeling giddy and wanting more. The love between you two is pure and uncomplicated. Its sometimes the only time in your life that you can truly be with someone and not be anyone but who you are. That other person loves you for you and no other reason. Then the hormones of the lovesick teenager kick in.....and this is where EVERYTHING get screwed up.
Nothing ruins a wonderful first love better than sex. At 15 or 16 we have all these racing hormones and desires and don't have a clue what the hell to do them. This is where we get the bright idea or ruining a good thing with sex. 90% of the time its the boy that mentions it. They then leave it up to the girl if they are going to have sex or not. Some guys pressure and others are very calm about it. What we don't realize at this age is that sex is wonderful and horrible all at the same time. It's wonderful because it makes you feel good and brings you closer to that other person. If you are truly in love it will bring you closer and make you fall even harder for that person. The bad side to it is that it complicates things by making the little things like holding hands and making out not mean as much as it used to. Before you has sex those things were enough to calm the desires for that other person, now it doesn't work as well as it used to and sex is the only way to quench this desire. This leaves a lot of young couples thinking that the only reason they are together is because of the sex because they forget the real reason they fell in love in the first place. The fighting begins and the cute teenage relationship turns into World War III. Break-ups ensue and you sometimes never talk to that person again.
As you grow up, you find someone that brings the butterflies again. Even though they aren't the same butterflies that you got at 15, they are still the ones that tell you that you like and could love this person you've met. Through out your courtship, the hand holding, making out, and cuddling happen but the way all of these made you feel at 15 is lost and the more mature desire kicks in. The love making happens and the falling in love begins. The butterflies disappear but a stronger feeling of love and attachment kicks in and even though its not the same love as it was when you were 15 its just as strong. Eventually you will get married and maybe have a family. The relationship between you and your husband is strong and you could never imagine yourself with another man, but one day while you are just sitting alone or cleaning up your first love will pop into your head and you will reminisce about the days when things were simple and just a kiss would give you butterflies.
So in closing all I have to say is this......Even though you are perfectly happy with your marriage or relationship that you are in its OK to remember a simpler time when kisses meant more and a hand holding yours would give you those happy butterflies.....until next time.......
Saturday, March 24, 2012
GLITTER!!!!!!
I know, exciting title right? My husband and I got into a conversation about the female obsession with glitter one night after I felt compelled to buy not one, but 4 new nail polishes. What compelled this buy? Earlier that week my mom and I had gone shopping and we came across some Wet n' Wild nail polish. It was a glitter, sparkle polish in mulitple colors and mom said to pick one for myself and she would get it for me. Being as I have a propensity towards blue I found a bluish one amongst the collection and threw it in the cart. Later that day I decided to change the plain white french manicure I already had and followed the white tip with the new bluish sparkle. I was in awe. First of all, one coat almost was enough. Secondly, it was a full cover, full color sparkle.....meaning two coats and it totally covered the white tip with out any gaps. Last but not least it glittered in the sun like Edward Cullen with his shirt off. I was in love!!! I knew that I had to have more. The next day I went back to the store to find that they had four other colors in the collection and I bought them all. I was now the proud owner of a rainbow of sparkly colors, pink, purple, green, yellow and the already owned blue. Later that night I redid my sparkly tips and did each tip in a different color. "you women and glitter" was all the hubby said to me as he smiled and shook his head after I showed him my masterpiece. That comment sparked a conversation that inspired this blog.
Woman are obsessed with glitter. Don't think so? How much glittery nail polish do you own? How much glittery make-up do you have on hand? (eyeshadow, blush, body powder, body lotion.) Probably more than you thought. Most of the time women can't buy make-up with out some type of shimmer or shiny already in it. A lot of times we go out of our way to buy it and mix it with what we have or use it on its own. Think about the Rennissance Festival, they have people paid to just walk around with a bottle of glitter and ask you if you want to be sparkled....and what do we say? Yesss!! Then we stand as close as possible and make sure they get us from head to toe with this stuff so that we can spend the day glittering in the sunlight as we walk around Holly Grove with fake british accents buying wooden swords and turkey legs as big as our heads. Why do we do this you ask? (my hubby asked too...) Because it doesn't matter how horrible we feel we put a little bit of glitter on ourselves and it will make us instantly happy. Don't believe me? Try it. One day when you are totally pissed off paint your nails with some glitter polish or put on a low cut shirt and use some shimmery lotion or body powder. I can promise that once the glitter catches the light your mood will instantly change and you will start posing like a super model in the mirror. Glitter makes us feel pretty. It makes us feel confident. We all love to feel like Tinkerbell sometimes.
I think this might be where the saying "A diamond is a girls best friend" came from. Its not because we have an obsession with diamonds themselves but the sparkly effect that they have on us. Let's face it, other gem stones are pretty but nothing sparkles and glitters in the sunlight like a diamond. The bigger the diamond the bigger the sparkle. So for all of you men out there that think its the diamond we are obssessed with, it's not, we want the sparkle that the diamond gives off. Look around, I'm sure on a sunny day you will catch a woman checking out her rings and manipulating them in the sun to see the sparkly. We do the same with good glitter polish on our nails, which is why it is more popular to see in the summer months covering fingers and toes as opposed to the winter. We all have a need to feel good about our selves and I believe that nothing does that better than a little glittery pixie dusting or I can even quote How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days and say a little "frosting" might be all we need.
So in closing, if your man complains about the glitter tell him to shove off. If it makes you feel good, let's face it we know it does, then abuse the glitter to your hearts content. Hell, when he's not looking dump some on him!!! He might get mad but it will make you laugh! Until next time.......
Woman are obsessed with glitter. Don't think so? How much glittery nail polish do you own? How much glittery make-up do you have on hand? (eyeshadow, blush, body powder, body lotion.) Probably more than you thought. Most of the time women can't buy make-up with out some type of shimmer or shiny already in it. A lot of times we go out of our way to buy it and mix it with what we have or use it on its own. Think about the Rennissance Festival, they have people paid to just walk around with a bottle of glitter and ask you if you want to be sparkled....and what do we say? Yesss!! Then we stand as close as possible and make sure they get us from head to toe with this stuff so that we can spend the day glittering in the sunlight as we walk around Holly Grove with fake british accents buying wooden swords and turkey legs as big as our heads. Why do we do this you ask? (my hubby asked too...) Because it doesn't matter how horrible we feel we put a little bit of glitter on ourselves and it will make us instantly happy. Don't believe me? Try it. One day when you are totally pissed off paint your nails with some glitter polish or put on a low cut shirt and use some shimmery lotion or body powder. I can promise that once the glitter catches the light your mood will instantly change and you will start posing like a super model in the mirror. Glitter makes us feel pretty. It makes us feel confident. We all love to feel like Tinkerbell sometimes.
I think this might be where the saying "A diamond is a girls best friend" came from. Its not because we have an obsession with diamonds themselves but the sparkly effect that they have on us. Let's face it, other gem stones are pretty but nothing sparkles and glitters in the sunlight like a diamond. The bigger the diamond the bigger the sparkle. So for all of you men out there that think its the diamond we are obssessed with, it's not, we want the sparkle that the diamond gives off. Look around, I'm sure on a sunny day you will catch a woman checking out her rings and manipulating them in the sun to see the sparkly. We do the same with good glitter polish on our nails, which is why it is more popular to see in the summer months covering fingers and toes as opposed to the winter. We all have a need to feel good about our selves and I believe that nothing does that better than a little glittery pixie dusting or I can even quote How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days and say a little "frosting" might be all we need.
So in closing, if your man complains about the glitter tell him to shove off. If it makes you feel good, let's face it we know it does, then abuse the glitter to your hearts content. Hell, when he's not looking dump some on him!!! He might get mad but it will make you laugh! Until next time.......
Saturday, March 3, 2012
Men are Mars...Women are from Pluto!!!
I only say this because in a lot of respects woman are completely out of this world with their thinking. I only realized this the other day when my husband and I got to talking the differences between men and women. Not just obvious differences (yes I realize boys have a penis and girls have a vagina)but the differences in our relationships with other people, more specifically with our friends. After our conversation I was enlightened to the differences and was a little surprised at just how things really are. I don't want to betray my gender but women can be really ridiculous when it comes to friendships and keeping them. This is the only time that I think that men have it completely right.
Men have friends and men will keep those friends for years. I'm not talking just a couple of years, but like they've been friends since they were in diapers, years. They might compete in everything from who has the better car to who gets the hot girl, but in the long run, men have friendships that will stand the test of time and these guys would do anything for eachother. They are genuinly there for eachother through the hard times, the good times, the bad times and they just enjoy hanging out doing nothing but watching TV. They won't go out of their way to screw eachother over just for the joy of seeing what would happen. When they have a diagreement, they won't end the friendship. They might not talk for a couple of days, but they do make up and the friendship goes on. If a friend of theirs calls them some derogotory name they come up with something equally bad until they go back and forth so many times that they do it to make themselves laugh. It becomes a game and all meaness goes out the window.There are few things that will cause men to end their relationships with their friends. Those few things will be a deal breaker for anyone. (Cheating with the others spouse, murder...you get the drift...all the REALLY bad stuff.)
Women, well they're a totally different breed. How many of you can truely say that you have had a female friend that you have known all of your life? You might have one but chances are the majority of us do not and the friend that we have known the longest we have only known for a couple of years. Women have a tendency to write people off if they don't do, say, or agree with everthing that we believe in. We have an ability to end a friendship over something dumb that can be forgiven and forgotten but instead we drag out the cat fight looking for more reasons why we shouldn't be friends with that person anymore. We let our relationships with our guys interfere with our relationships with our girls. How many of you stopped hanging out with a friend because you just started dating a guy or the guy you have been dating doesn't like that certain friend? Don't feel bad, we have all done it. But we shouldn't. We go out of our way to try and make eachother look bad but act like the victim when things don't work out the way we thought they would. We pretend to be nice to eachother but constantly talk eachother down behind one another's back. We will talk a guy down to our friend until that friend loses interest in him and then go behind their backs and date that guy. In a lot of cases this behavior will completely end a friendship. The ridiculous thing is the girl that down talked the guy and started dating him will tell her new ex-friend "you snooze you lose". Maybe not exactly that phrase but one like it. Sometimes we will find that one true friend that we would go out of our way for and then something in us changes and we do everything we can to push that person away. I think it comes down to the fact that we think they know too much about us and we are paranoid that they will use what they know against us. Why do we think this? Because we are all guilty of doing it. What we need to do is take a page from the book that the boys go from......maybe then we can all have a longtime friend that we can trust. We can build the friendships that we all want. Trusting, lasting, and never judging.
I have been told on several occasions that I'm part dude. All of my husbands friends think I have a mans brain because I understand what they do, why they do it and I still accept them for who they are. My husband told me the same thing when we had the discussuion on this very topic. I have a couple of close girlfriends and the rest are all guys....why? Because a lot of girls and myself don't get along because of the behavior descibed above. I don't understand how women can treat eachother this way. I've had it done to me and I'm sad for the fact that I have lost quite a few really good friends because they felt the need to do everthing I have talked about. I'm not innocent by any means and I will admit I have my moments that I can be catty but when it realy comes down to it I do my best to treat my friends with the respect that they deseve. I have managed to keep a couple of friendships for 10 years or better and my friends and I work on those friendships to keep them happy.
In closing, all I'm saying is follow the golden rule and treat others the way you want to be treated. When you find that friend that you really trust, don't push them away because you think they know too much about you and if you do hear about a friend talking badly about you when you aren't around, go to them and talk to them about it instead of believing what everyone else tells you. You may find that there are two sides to every story. Until next time.......
Men have friends and men will keep those friends for years. I'm not talking just a couple of years, but like they've been friends since they were in diapers, years. They might compete in everything from who has the better car to who gets the hot girl, but in the long run, men have friendships that will stand the test of time and these guys would do anything for eachother. They are genuinly there for eachother through the hard times, the good times, the bad times and they just enjoy hanging out doing nothing but watching TV. They won't go out of their way to screw eachother over just for the joy of seeing what would happen. When they have a diagreement, they won't end the friendship. They might not talk for a couple of days, but they do make up and the friendship goes on. If a friend of theirs calls them some derogotory name they come up with something equally bad until they go back and forth so many times that they do it to make themselves laugh. It becomes a game and all meaness goes out the window.There are few things that will cause men to end their relationships with their friends. Those few things will be a deal breaker for anyone. (Cheating with the others spouse, murder...you get the drift...all the REALLY bad stuff.)
Women, well they're a totally different breed. How many of you can truely say that you have had a female friend that you have known all of your life? You might have one but chances are the majority of us do not and the friend that we have known the longest we have only known for a couple of years. Women have a tendency to write people off if they don't do, say, or agree with everthing that we believe in. We have an ability to end a friendship over something dumb that can be forgiven and forgotten but instead we drag out the cat fight looking for more reasons why we shouldn't be friends with that person anymore. We let our relationships with our guys interfere with our relationships with our girls. How many of you stopped hanging out with a friend because you just started dating a guy or the guy you have been dating doesn't like that certain friend? Don't feel bad, we have all done it. But we shouldn't. We go out of our way to try and make eachother look bad but act like the victim when things don't work out the way we thought they would. We pretend to be nice to eachother but constantly talk eachother down behind one another's back. We will talk a guy down to our friend until that friend loses interest in him and then go behind their backs and date that guy. In a lot of cases this behavior will completely end a friendship. The ridiculous thing is the girl that down talked the guy and started dating him will tell her new ex-friend "you snooze you lose". Maybe not exactly that phrase but one like it. Sometimes we will find that one true friend that we would go out of our way for and then something in us changes and we do everything we can to push that person away. I think it comes down to the fact that we think they know too much about us and we are paranoid that they will use what they know against us. Why do we think this? Because we are all guilty of doing it. What we need to do is take a page from the book that the boys go from......maybe then we can all have a longtime friend that we can trust. We can build the friendships that we all want. Trusting, lasting, and never judging.
I have been told on several occasions that I'm part dude. All of my husbands friends think I have a mans brain because I understand what they do, why they do it and I still accept them for who they are. My husband told me the same thing when we had the discussuion on this very topic. I have a couple of close girlfriends and the rest are all guys....why? Because a lot of girls and myself don't get along because of the behavior descibed above. I don't understand how women can treat eachother this way. I've had it done to me and I'm sad for the fact that I have lost quite a few really good friends because they felt the need to do everthing I have talked about. I'm not innocent by any means and I will admit I have my moments that I can be catty but when it realy comes down to it I do my best to treat my friends with the respect that they deseve. I have managed to keep a couple of friendships for 10 years or better and my friends and I work on those friendships to keep them happy.
In closing, all I'm saying is follow the golden rule and treat others the way you want to be treated. When you find that friend that you really trust, don't push them away because you think they know too much about you and if you do hear about a friend talking badly about you when you aren't around, go to them and talk to them about it instead of believing what everyone else tells you. You may find that there are two sides to every story. Until next time.......
Saturday, February 25, 2012
Ewwwww Hair....or Ooooooh Hair.....?
This has been a common debate amongst the female population. Don't believe me? I heard a debate about it on my favorite morning radio show!! Do women like a hairy man or would we prefer that they waxed (or shaved) it all off. Well the answer to that lies with the woman. It's their choice. Yes, I realize that men have the choice but if they know what we like they are more than likely to do what we want. Why? Because if we like it then they're going to get laid. (don't deny it you know they will.) It depends on the woman on what they find sexier.
The hair debate has been going on for ages and I'm pretty sure has been talked about on every women's gossip show on the planet at one point in time. Do women prefer their men to have body hair or not? My personal opinion? I love it! Now, I'm not talking gross hairy, I don't like if a man is so hairy he would rival Chewbacca. I don't wanna live with a Sasquatch. All I'm talking about is hair on the chest, a little down to the belly button and maybe a little on his back. The hair on the chest has to have a decent covering too, not just a few little hairs that they are proud of, but an even covering. Maybe a little showing out of the collar of their shirt but you don't want to see what looks like a small kitten trying to escape. The back hair should be there but just on the shoulder blades, maybe down the sides a little, and not thick. You don't want to have enough there to be able to brush and style. Just enough that you know its there. Now, if you're like me and you love everything I have just described, a man with these attributes will completely irresistible to you. I believe that the hair makes the man, you are not a real man unless you have it. The first time i saw my husband take his shirt off I was in awe and a completely changed woman. I used to be a girl that thought chest hair was gross. Just the thought of it made me just....ewwwwww. Then that first time he took his shirt off I was never more turned on in my life. He had hair on his chest and I was just unbelievably just....wow. I was literally speechless. I was converted and I loved it. I do understand that there are guys out there that just can't grow any hair on their chest. I knew a guy that could only grow three hairs and that's it. That doesn't make them any less of a man because of genetics. That simply puts them into the group of guys that women who don't like the hair.
There are a lot of women out there who unlike myself and a few others would prefer a smooth hairless chest, back and otherwise. Now I can see the attraction, with a hairless chest you get to see the true muscle definition and you can lay your head on his chest with out having hair in your face. If he tans, his chest will tan evenly with out hair getting in the way. The six pack abs that he might have will be truly visible. I can vision all of you ladies now just picturing what I have described and I can guarantee that at one point in the thought you just had you either licked or slightly bit your bottom lip or both. Don't be embarrassed. We all do it. Every single one of has, does and still will. Even those of us, like me who prefer the hair, can appreciate the view. The guys will make sure they stay that way too, because they know that if their girl looks at them that way they have the excellent possibility of getting some of the best sex of their lives. And you know they do. Guys will put themselves through the pain of waxing, razor burn from shaving and try hair removal creams to keep us satisfied if that's what we like. They're not completely dumb. (a little but not totally)
So in closing, I know that this one is a little short and that's why I am going to leave things open for discussion!!! Let me know what you prefer and why. Tell your friends to read this and have them comment. Who knows there may be a part two to this blog.....Until then.......
The hair debate has been going on for ages and I'm pretty sure has been talked about on every women's gossip show on the planet at one point in time. Do women prefer their men to have body hair or not? My personal opinion? I love it! Now, I'm not talking gross hairy, I don't like if a man is so hairy he would rival Chewbacca. I don't wanna live with a Sasquatch. All I'm talking about is hair on the chest, a little down to the belly button and maybe a little on his back. The hair on the chest has to have a decent covering too, not just a few little hairs that they are proud of, but an even covering. Maybe a little showing out of the collar of their shirt but you don't want to see what looks like a small kitten trying to escape. The back hair should be there but just on the shoulder blades, maybe down the sides a little, and not thick. You don't want to have enough there to be able to brush and style. Just enough that you know its there. Now, if you're like me and you love everything I have just described, a man with these attributes will completely irresistible to you. I believe that the hair makes the man, you are not a real man unless you have it. The first time i saw my husband take his shirt off I was in awe and a completely changed woman. I used to be a girl that thought chest hair was gross. Just the thought of it made me just....ewwwwww. Then that first time he took his shirt off I was never more turned on in my life. He had hair on his chest and I was just unbelievably just....wow. I was literally speechless. I was converted and I loved it. I do understand that there are guys out there that just can't grow any hair on their chest. I knew a guy that could only grow three hairs and that's it. That doesn't make them any less of a man because of genetics. That simply puts them into the group of guys that women who don't like the hair.
There are a lot of women out there who unlike myself and a few others would prefer a smooth hairless chest, back and otherwise. Now I can see the attraction, with a hairless chest you get to see the true muscle definition and you can lay your head on his chest with out having hair in your face. If he tans, his chest will tan evenly with out hair getting in the way. The six pack abs that he might have will be truly visible. I can vision all of you ladies now just picturing what I have described and I can guarantee that at one point in the thought you just had you either licked or slightly bit your bottom lip or both. Don't be embarrassed. We all do it. Every single one of has, does and still will. Even those of us, like me who prefer the hair, can appreciate the view. The guys will make sure they stay that way too, because they know that if their girl looks at them that way they have the excellent possibility of getting some of the best sex of their lives. And you know they do. Guys will put themselves through the pain of waxing, razor burn from shaving and try hair removal creams to keep us satisfied if that's what we like. They're not completely dumb. (a little but not totally)
So in closing, I know that this one is a little short and that's why I am going to leave things open for discussion!!! Let me know what you prefer and why. Tell your friends to read this and have them comment. Who knows there may be a part two to this blog.....Until then.......
Sunday, February 12, 2012
For the Love of a Nerd
I know what you are thinking by reading this title.....ewwwww nerds!!!! That's right this whole blog today will be about the people we call "nerds" and how they are greatly underestimated. Being considered a nerd myself all through high school, (at least I thought I was....) I can almost call myself an expert on the subject. A lot of people still consider me a nerd to this day because of the interests and hobbies that I enjoy. What people don't know is that those we consider nerds are probably some of the best friends that you can have and in a lot of cases the best lovers. (speaking from a girls perspective about nerdy guys....really not sure about the other way around.)
So like I said, all through high school I thought myself to be considered a nerd. I was smart, did my own thing and never really hung out with the popular crowd. Take all of those factors into account and the label was formed. None of my friends were considered popular either...."nerds" as well. We did our own thing and had a great time. As I got older I reconnected with my high school best friend ( yes a guy) and we ended up dating and getting married. "Awwwwww you married your high school sweetheart..." Yes, yes I did and I have never been happier. My husband was a part of our group of "nerds" in high school and after getting to really know him I found out just how far the nerdyness went.
He is BIG in video games and probably has played every game on the planet at least once at one point in time or another. He is really big into role playing, not the same role playing that you are thinking of, but role playing like dungeons and dragons. I have to admit I kinda giggled when I heard that until he got me to play once and now I'm hooked. I know that you are laughing right now but when you have an overactive imagination like I do this game is perfect. Its not much different from playing video games but its all on paper and using your imagination rather that relying on a computer to add all your traits and scores for you. I usually describe it to people as a group of people sitting around a table telling a story. You have worksheets to keep track of items, traits, hit points, weapons and other various things that help you character you created and are playing. There are dice involved, not just regular six sided dice that we are all used to but like ten and twenty sided ones that I had never seen nor did I know they existed until I started playing. You get as many people that you can and have a blast. You'll never know how fun it is until you try it once. He was big into Warhammer which is role playing but you buy and make the little figurines and the landscapes on which to play. This is all done on table top. I never got into playing the game but I loved sitting down and painting the figurines. He loves to read and between the two of us we have enough books to stock a small library. He doesn't dress in the latest fashions instead , he wears what he is comfortable in. So according to the stereotype of nerd, he fits the profile. What most don't know is that even though he is a guy and still has a little bit of those guy tendencies, he's an amazing husband. He's loving, caring, supportive and last but not least amazing in the sack!!!
The point I want to make here is, a lot of us girls don't give the "nerdy" guys a chance because they aren't popular, aren't always the handsomest and some are into stuff that we turn our noses up at because we are afraid to stray from the norm and try new things. So, we continue to push our loyal nerd guy friends off to the side and go for the "popular" guy. You know, handsome, athletic, six pack and an ego that rivals the size of Jupiter type of guy that ALWAYS breaks your heart. (mostly because his ego is the size of Jupiter!!) Then we wonder what we did wrong. What we did wrong is push the nice guy away (nerd) and go for what society tells us is beautiful. I have been hanging out with my husband and all of his friends for almost ten years and I don't think I have ever met a more friendly, loyal, and down to earth crowd in my life. They met me once and instantly they accepted me no questions asked and would be there for me if I ever needed anything. That's how it should be for everyone. This world would be a better place if we were all accepted for who we are and not who we should be.
I also know that those guys we consider nerds might not be the handsomest boys on the planet but if you find them sexy then who cares what other people think?? I used to be picked on all the time by a girl I used to work with about my husband. She didn't know what I saw in him. I didn't care. Yes he may be a red head with a temper to match, covered in freckles from head to toe, not have six pack abs and have a chest covered in hair, but I still find him irresistble. (and aren't real men supposed to have hairy chests and not shaved ones anyway??) As long as he's as fantastic as he is to me and I find him sexy, bullocks to what everyone else thinks. I have also come to find out that nerds can also be better lovers than your average man. They are more concerned with what they are doing and how they are making you feel rather than most guys who are in a race with you to have an orgasm and how they look doing it. Nerds, at least from my experience, like to make sure you are satisfied before they worry about themselves. They also like to cuddle. Now I want to reiterate that this doesn't cover all nerds and there are probably some out there that are just like your regular to average douchebag. I am only going by my experiences.
So in closing, in the words of Bob Dylan (well not exactly), all I am saying is give nerds a chance. You might be surprised at what you find......until next time......
So like I said, all through high school I thought myself to be considered a nerd. I was smart, did my own thing and never really hung out with the popular crowd. Take all of those factors into account and the label was formed. None of my friends were considered popular either...."nerds" as well. We did our own thing and had a great time. As I got older I reconnected with my high school best friend ( yes a guy) and we ended up dating and getting married. "Awwwwww you married your high school sweetheart..." Yes, yes I did and I have never been happier. My husband was a part of our group of "nerds" in high school and after getting to really know him I found out just how far the nerdyness went.
He is BIG in video games and probably has played every game on the planet at least once at one point in time or another. He is really big into role playing, not the same role playing that you are thinking of, but role playing like dungeons and dragons. I have to admit I kinda giggled when I heard that until he got me to play once and now I'm hooked. I know that you are laughing right now but when you have an overactive imagination like I do this game is perfect. Its not much different from playing video games but its all on paper and using your imagination rather that relying on a computer to add all your traits and scores for you. I usually describe it to people as a group of people sitting around a table telling a story. You have worksheets to keep track of items, traits, hit points, weapons and other various things that help you character you created and are playing. There are dice involved, not just regular six sided dice that we are all used to but like ten and twenty sided ones that I had never seen nor did I know they existed until I started playing. You get as many people that you can and have a blast. You'll never know how fun it is until you try it once. He was big into Warhammer which is role playing but you buy and make the little figurines and the landscapes on which to play. This is all done on table top. I never got into playing the game but I loved sitting down and painting the figurines. He loves to read and between the two of us we have enough books to stock a small library. He doesn't dress in the latest fashions instead , he wears what he is comfortable in. So according to the stereotype of nerd, he fits the profile. What most don't know is that even though he is a guy and still has a little bit of those guy tendencies, he's an amazing husband. He's loving, caring, supportive and last but not least amazing in the sack!!!
The point I want to make here is, a lot of us girls don't give the "nerdy" guys a chance because they aren't popular, aren't always the handsomest and some are into stuff that we turn our noses up at because we are afraid to stray from the norm and try new things. So, we continue to push our loyal nerd guy friends off to the side and go for the "popular" guy. You know, handsome, athletic, six pack and an ego that rivals the size of Jupiter type of guy that ALWAYS breaks your heart. (mostly because his ego is the size of Jupiter!!) Then we wonder what we did wrong. What we did wrong is push the nice guy away (nerd) and go for what society tells us is beautiful. I have been hanging out with my husband and all of his friends for almost ten years and I don't think I have ever met a more friendly, loyal, and down to earth crowd in my life. They met me once and instantly they accepted me no questions asked and would be there for me if I ever needed anything. That's how it should be for everyone. This world would be a better place if we were all accepted for who we are and not who we should be.
I also know that those guys we consider nerds might not be the handsomest boys on the planet but if you find them sexy then who cares what other people think?? I used to be picked on all the time by a girl I used to work with about my husband. She didn't know what I saw in him. I didn't care. Yes he may be a red head with a temper to match, covered in freckles from head to toe, not have six pack abs and have a chest covered in hair, but I still find him irresistble. (and aren't real men supposed to have hairy chests and not shaved ones anyway??) As long as he's as fantastic as he is to me and I find him sexy, bullocks to what everyone else thinks. I have also come to find out that nerds can also be better lovers than your average man. They are more concerned with what they are doing and how they are making you feel rather than most guys who are in a race with you to have an orgasm and how they look doing it. Nerds, at least from my experience, like to make sure you are satisfied before they worry about themselves. They also like to cuddle. Now I want to reiterate that this doesn't cover all nerds and there are probably some out there that are just like your regular to average douchebag. I am only going by my experiences.
So in closing, in the words of Bob Dylan (well not exactly), all I am saying is give nerds a chance. You might be surprised at what you find......until next time......
Friday, February 3, 2012
Must Love Kids.....This one's for you Boys.....Pay Attention.
How many of you ladies out there are single moms? How many of you have found a great guy that you can connect with but as soon as they find out you have children they stop calling and just become someone you once knew? I haven't ever experienced this myself, but I have several friends that have. I'm sending this blog out to all you guys out there. Girls, if you are in a relationship with a man and had kids already when you two got together, make him read this.....it's gonna be full of some good stuff. So you go out one night, for the first time in what feels like forever because finding a babysitter is hell, to have a good time with your friends. On this venture you meet what you believe is a charming and handsome prince, you guys have a couple of drinks and exchange numbers so that you can get together again. Over the next few weeks you go out to dinner, movies and all the other things that two people getting to know each other do. After about the third or fourth date the topic that most guys try to avoid comes up and you make it known to him that you have a child (or children). One of two things at this point will happen, the chicken shit man will in so many words say its been nice knowing you but he's not the biggest child advocate. Then he will be a coward and not even give the relationship a chance. The brave man will accept this twist in his reality and tell you he wants to be with you despite the fact that you have kids and will want to eventually meet them. The hard part is finding the right time for this man to meet your little ones. You're excited that he has accepted you and your life that way it was dealt to you, but you are also apprehensive because of the attachment your children will feel for this man over time should everything between you two work out. If things don't work out and a break-up ensues, these tiny humans have no understanding for what happened. Break-ups for children can be devastating, they don't understand why mommy and this man they have come to admire can't live together and get along. All I can say is, if you are going to have this man meet your children make sure that you both agree that you are going to give the relationship a good try. To all of the men that were made to read this same goes for you, if you really think that you can make it work with this amazing woman then by all means discuss with her a good time and place to meet her little ones. You have to ease into it and be prepared for these tiny people to hate you and/or be really shy.
Now to all of you boys out there, make sure and I mean absolutely certain that meeting your girlfriends children is really what you want to do. Once you meet them and they warm up to you, (guaranteed that it will probably only take a couple of minutes) they are going to begin to look up to you and learn things from you. They are going to see you as a role model, someone that they can ask questions, someone to play games with and possibly a best friend. They will always have their biological father but depending on the circumstances between their mother and father, you are looking at being a big part of their lives. You have the opportunity to teach them different things, helping them with their homework, playing games with them and helping them with their problems if they want you to. If you and their father get into any arguments, and its bound to happen especially if you move in with their mother, don't let it get out of hand in front of the kids. It might hurt your pride to take the high road and keep your mouth shut but its more important for them to see you acting like a mature adult and handling things with out screaming, yelling, or violence. This same golden rule applies when you get into an argument with their mother. (Applies to you too ladies!!!) They are bound to see the two of you fight but keep it to a dull uproar. They are great receptors for stress and can feel it sometimes before we do, seeing two people they love fight and say hurtful things to each other gives them doubts of their place in the world. They begin to think that its because of them why you guys are fighting. If you know an argument is coming, wait until they go to bed and keep the yelling to a minimum so that they don hear you. Its better for them and in turn, better for you.
So in closing, ladies if you have children and are considering letting your boyfriend meet them don't make the decision lightly. If he keeps pressuring you, tell him to back off and explain the nature of the situation to him. Sometimes boys need things spelled out for them. Guys, if you have a girlfriend with children, give her time and let her be sure that meeting her kids is a good decision for them. She doesn't love you any less but she has one or more other people to think about besides herself, she want to be sure shes making good choices for them. Last but not least, I realize that all of this can be reversed and the guy can have the kids and the girlfriend wants to meet his children. All the same rules apply!!! Patience and good choices for these tiny humans is what is ultimately important. With that said.....until next time..........
Now to all of you boys out there, make sure and I mean absolutely certain that meeting your girlfriends children is really what you want to do. Once you meet them and they warm up to you, (guaranteed that it will probably only take a couple of minutes) they are going to begin to look up to you and learn things from you. They are going to see you as a role model, someone that they can ask questions, someone to play games with and possibly a best friend. They will always have their biological father but depending on the circumstances between their mother and father, you are looking at being a big part of their lives. You have the opportunity to teach them different things, helping them with their homework, playing games with them and helping them with their problems if they want you to. If you and their father get into any arguments, and its bound to happen especially if you move in with their mother, don't let it get out of hand in front of the kids. It might hurt your pride to take the high road and keep your mouth shut but its more important for them to see you acting like a mature adult and handling things with out screaming, yelling, or violence. This same golden rule applies when you get into an argument with their mother. (Applies to you too ladies!!!) They are bound to see the two of you fight but keep it to a dull uproar. They are great receptors for stress and can feel it sometimes before we do, seeing two people they love fight and say hurtful things to each other gives them doubts of their place in the world. They begin to think that its because of them why you guys are fighting. If you know an argument is coming, wait until they go to bed and keep the yelling to a minimum so that they don hear you. Its better for them and in turn, better for you.
So in closing, ladies if you have children and are considering letting your boyfriend meet them don't make the decision lightly. If he keeps pressuring you, tell him to back off and explain the nature of the situation to him. Sometimes boys need things spelled out for them. Guys, if you have a girlfriend with children, give her time and let her be sure that meeting her kids is a good decision for them. She doesn't love you any less but she has one or more other people to think about besides herself, she want to be sure shes making good choices for them. Last but not least, I realize that all of this can be reversed and the guy can have the kids and the girlfriend wants to meet his children. All the same rules apply!!! Patience and good choices for these tiny humans is what is ultimately important. With that said.....until next time..........
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