tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32614633865193859592024-03-08T11:21:57.904-08:00Sex In My CityCeltic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-37223528715972341942013-05-26T13:26:00.000-07:002013-05-26T13:26:01.831-07:00The Big Move Yay!! I'm back!!! I realize that it's been a looooong time since I have posted anything, I moved and I live in an area that doesn't have Internet service available through any company. Yes, there are still areas like that, no I can't believe it either. So with my Internet blackout looking like it's going to be a permanent thing I have found other ways to get my fabulous posts to all of you. I'm not going to reveal how because well we'll just say I got around it.<br />
So today the topic up for discussion is "The Big Move" aka. moving in with your significant other. I have come to find out recently, that thee are still a LARGE group of people out there that go with tradition and not move in with their other half until they are married. There is a really BIG part of me that finds this the dumbest thing in the world to do and if its done the relationship is already doomed. I completely understand that for a lot of you its because of religion or law, that can't be helped, but if you are like me and are not restrained by any of that you have no excuse. <br />
The first boyfriend I ever lived with my mom got on me about living with him and not being married. She told me it was a sin and I shouldn't do it. My mom was raised Catholic and so was I but some time during the teen years we stopped going to church and doing "churchy" things. I didn't stop believing in God but I didn't agree with all the rules, mainly this one. Now let me remind you, this is all my personal opinion and I'm going to apologize now if anyone is offended, but I refuse to marry some one if I haven't lived with them for at least a year if not longer. My reason why? Because you never truly get to know someone until you lived with that person. You get to see all of their nasty habits, like if they leave their clothes scattered everywhere or if they like to pick their nose and wipe it on the carpet. You get to help do their laundry and see if they were taught properly how to wipe their ass. Most importantly, if you get into an argument with that person you have no place else to go. ( except maybe the corner bar ) You live with that person, so you have no other place to run because it's your home too. Now I know that you're thinking that you could just go back home to your parents or go to a friends house, wrong. You might think that you can until the situation comes up and then a stubborn streak will hit you and the fight escalates to "Fuck you, I live here too, you leave." This statement generally leads to some one going into the bedroom and grabbing blankets and a pillow to camp out on the couch. Unfortunately for most of you guys, you are the ones doing the couch camping. Women are pros at keeping the bed in their possession with most of the bedding intact. Living with a new person is hard. You could know that person most of your life but until you have lived with them you know nothing about that person. <br />
My advice to all of you is COMPROMISE. You have to, you have no other way around it. If you want to make the relationship work and marry this person one day, you will have to make small sacrifices. Girls, you will have to condense your wardrobe to make room for him in your closet. (Unless you have two and then no sharing is needed, unless you have stuff in the second one too.) Boys, you will have to deal with girly soaps and shampoo and little candles and knick nacks everywhere. We're girls that's what we do. Try not to nag each other too much about the small stuff and equally as possible share the chores. When it comes to the fighting, there's only one way to do it....NAKED. Try to fight naked. You can't do it I promise you. I know, I've tried. You get too distracted by the pure nakedness of the other person and it will lead to two things, 1) a momentary truce to where you both grudge fuck the fuck out of the other person and by the time you are done you're not angry anymore or 2) you make up say you're sorry and truly mean it and then have make-up sex. ( There is a difference between the two, trust me.) If you can 85% of the time you are living with your significant other and you don't want to kill them then you are doing good and on the fast track for being ready for the real scary commitment of MARRIAGE. ARGHHHHHHHHHH!!!! If you are thinking that even though you have spent the year or more living with that person that marriage won't change things, you are sorely mistaken. But that is a blog for another time....<br />
So in closing, live together first if you can. It's the best advice that I can give you. It will make or break your relationship but you will know for real real if you and that person are meant to go for the long haul. So my faithful readers, Until next time.............<br />
Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-74967037975871998462012-10-28T13:51:00.001-07:002012-10-28T13:51:26.930-07:00All my favorites........ OK, so I will apologize now because this entry is going to be a shameless plug for all the fashion and beauty sites that I have found and have come to love. We all have them....that one website that has a bunch of cool tips and cute things that we love, so we check it on a regular basis. I have a couple that if you haven't ever been on the site you should check out.<br />
So the first one is a blog called polishandpearls.com. The girl that runs the blog, Jen, is adorable and has a great personality. She also has a couple of channels on youtube that I watch regularly. If you want to see those I think you can find the links on the blog page. Basically what she does is goes out and finds products that she likes while she is shopping and then posts her opinions about them. She has everything from brand name high end items to drugstore finds and everything in between. She talks about clothes, hair, make-up, jewelry, and my favorite, nail polish. This girls collection of polishes is positively insane. She also does make-up tutorials, hair tutorials and nail design tutorials. Everything is cute and fun and I love it!!!<br />
Another site I frequent is a blog on blogger called a girl and her polish. She posts different nail designs she has done and what colors and brands she used to do them. She also showcases different collections of different brands of polish. Some of her designs are really pretty and all the colors she uses are fantastic!!<br />
Keeping with the nail design talk the next site I'm going to tell you about is a channel I watch frequently on youtube called cutepolish. I believe you can also find this girl on twitter, facebook, instagram and a few other places on the net. Cutepolish (or the girl in the videos that we still have no idea what she looks like) showcases a plethora of adorable and easy nail designs. She takes ideas from her subscribers and fans and comes up with a design that only takes a couple of minutes to create. She now even has he own top and base coat that she sells!!! Her designs go from adorable to chic and everything else in between. I've tried a couple of her designs and they look amazing!!! She posts a new design every Sunday (usually, sometimes Monday) and as far as I have seen, answers any and all questions that her fans and subscribers may have to ask. She also recently started promoting Disney and once or twice a month comes out with a Disney inspired design. Awesome!!<br />
The last two I am going to tell you about are two that I actually fell in love with just this morning. Thank you to Jen from polishandpearls.com for getting me hooked. One is called youbeauty.com. Youbeauty is one of those sites that has tips and discussuons about EVERYTHING!!!!! Beauty, relationships...you name it they pretty much cover it and they have a TON of quizzes that you can take if you like to take quizzes. (Lord knows I do!!) The other is called littleblackbag.com. This site is cool and as soon as I get the money to I am bound and determined to try it out. When you sign in to this site it asks a bunch of questions about what styles you like, make-up, accessories...etc. Then what you do is you pick either the $49.99 or the $29.99 option and look through what their stylists have put together for based on your tastes. Once you pick one or two items they put them in a virtual "bag". When you check out they give you a couple more items at random based on your tastes in your bag. You get a couple of days to trade and swap items in your bag with other people before your items get shipped to you. The great part about it is you are only paying the $29 or $49 and getting items that are worth almost twice that!!! Brand name stuff that you probably wouldn't normally spend a ton of money on is what you are getting for one low price!!! How AWESOME is that???!!!! I love to shop so to me this is a dream come true!!! <br />
So that's all I have for you ladies....I hope you check out some of these sites and enjoy them as much as I do...Until next time......Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-66214966399699700992012-09-17T15:49:00.002-07:002012-09-17T15:50:12.232-07:00The Hair Affair How many of my readers out there have luscious long hair? How many of you have short hair? How many of you have a haircut that you aren't sure about but you keep because you are afraid to do anything else with? It's amazing how attached to our hair we can get. Depending on what we can make it do and how we feel with it, we can feel everything from feeling like a Victoria's Secret model to the cute girl next door and everything in between. Some of us find a hair cut that we are comfortable with and absolutely love, others spend a while changing styles and lengths looking for that perfect cut that makes us feel fabulous. Then there are those few who have had long hair all their lives and are afraid to cut it because that's how they identify themselves. This used to be me.<br />
OK, let me be honest, I didn't realize that I was identifying myself with my long hair. I had really long hair when I was in high school. Long, being that the ends of my hair brushed my belt line of my pants that were low riders to begin with. When I decided to become a runner and do track and cross country I cut it to the middle of my back to make it more manageable. A short time later I came to the realization that it was still to heavy to run with and cut it to my shoulders. I liked the cut, it was a cut little bob, the ends curled under on their own without any styling and I could still pull it back into a pony tail for sports. Feeling confident, I would go about my regular day until one day I was mistaken for someone else on a couple different occasions because I wasn't recognized because I cut my hair and looked like everyone else. This got to me. I was always been known for the long hair that I had, until that point, for the previous 10 years. I hated the idea of being mistaken for someone else instead of being recognized for me. I decided to start letting my hair grow back out determined to get it long again. I did this for a few years then I would cut it convinced that I liked it better short, then I would run into someone I knew and they would gush over how cute my hair looks but how gorgeous it was when I let it grow long. I went back and forth like this for years. A couple of months ago I looked at my husband and asked him what I should do with my hair because the maintenance and the random lost strands were getting ridiculous. My hair was just past the mid of my back at this point. He told me to shave my head and laughed. I told him no way, to which he replied that he always thought I looked cute with short hair. I decided to go for it, I figured that if my hubs thought I was cute with short hair then I could do it. I went and got it cut to my shoulders and layered. It looked good and received rave reviews from the hubby who was relieved that he wouldn't be pulling 2 foot long hairs out of his shirts anymore. I liked it and I felt good about it. It was easy to style and I could still get it to pull up into a wimpy pony. Last week however, I noticed how much it had grown in the last couple of months and wanted to get it cut again. Once again, I asked the hubby for his opinion and he told me that it was my hair and to do what I want. I showed him a picture of a cute isometric cut that was on Pinterest. He told me to go for it. So I did...... I LOVE IT!!!!! After I got it cut, I sent him a picture with my phone. He said he liked it and that i have always looked good with short hair. He also said that I have always identified myself with my long hair, to which I replied that the long hair always made me feel like a Victoria's Secret model. You want to knw what he said to me? My wonderful husband said to me that I was a Victoria Secret model, just one that didn't have time to fuck with her hair. I love him. But it was the comment he made about me identifying myself that stuck with me. I always felt that to feel like me and to feel pretty I had to have long hair and I realize I don't. I know I'm not the only person out there that has felt this way either. (Hairdressers wouldn't make the money they do if I was.) So I sit here with my cute and fab hair cut feeling sexxy telling all the other beautiful women out there that feel that same way I did to take a chance and try a new hair cut if you think it will make you feel amazing. If you have had long hair all your life and you want to try a short style, do it, hair grows back. If you don't like the new cut grow it out. Try everything.......We constantly change our nail color, our clothes, hair color evey thing....why not try a new hairstyle?<br />
So I leave you all with this.....Do as you will with your head, throw caution to the wind and try that drastic new cut, because you just might like it. If you don't, the great thing about hair is that it always grows back for you to try something new with it again. make yourself look as beautiful as you feel. Until next time........Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-90518213607047135452012-08-31T15:56:00.000-07:002012-08-31T15:56:07.921-07:00Men are from Mars, Women are from Pluto Part 2!!!! You didn't know that a blog could have a sequel did you? Well, in my world they can. The reason is well, if I would have put everything in the first half of this blog then I would have gone on for days.....this way I can break it up a little and change topic without losing my reader's interest. Seriously let's face it, most of us have the attention span of a 2 year old. We need new things after a certain amount of time. So this is where part two comes in and where it will begin.....<br />
Sex. We all think about it, most of us are doing it, and I'm hoping that everyone loves it. One question that has plagued women everywhere, why do people cheat? I have a couple of answers to that question. The reason I have a couple is because one reason doesn't cover every situation. The differences between men and women cause different answers to that question. This is where the big differences between men and women come in as well.<br />
When it comes to sex, women are in it for love. I don't give a rat's ass what anyone tells you, women are always in it for love whether or not they want to admit it. We can not separate emotion from just sex. We always throw our heart into it even if we don't want to. We can say all we want is sex from a man and we will make ourselves believe it, but deep down that person is more than just a fuck buddy. (Friend with benefits, booty call...etc you get the drift.) So we set up these rules with this other person and then we break the no emotional attachment rule that we are usually the first ones to mention. Then, we proceed to get angry when he decides to start dating other people as well as dating you, because we have developed this emotional attachment to this person that we said we only wanted a sexual relationship with. We call him every name in the book, cause a huge fight and are just as hurt as we would be if we were in an actual relationship with this person. They think we are crazy, call us all the names in the book and ask why we started anything with them in the first place when the agreement was not to get emotionally attached. We complain to our friends that he was an asshole and he tells his friends that bitches are crazy and nothing is resolved. Now when you are in an actual committed relationship, you and your object of affection are great for a few months, doing everything together, making kissy faces in public, and all the other stuff that couples do that makes the rest of the world gag and yell "get a room!!" Eventually the Disney movie love wears off and you are in a serious sexual relationship with another person with all the commitment that goes along with it. So why do girls cheat? Because something in a lot of us can never truly settle down with just one person and be happy. We will nit pick and look for every thing we can to find something wrong with the person we are with. Once we find one little fault, its almost always a deal breaker. We can still be with this person in a relationship and be on the prowl for something we might think is better. (Chances are very good that its not and the person you are with is everything you are looking for.) Once we find that someone else, its all a tragic fall that spirals out of control and turns into an affair that we later realize wasn't worth the relationship that we threw away by cheating. How does the other person find out about the affair you ask? Because girls are stupid and we either put ourselves in a position that we get caught or we feel guilty and we tell the truth. There is no way around it. Secrets are something that we are genetically programmed to not be able to keep. World war 3 happens and we just ruined possibly the best relationship that we will ever have with out any hope of salvage. How can we prevent this from happening? DON'T CHEAT!!!!!! It's not hard, just don't do it. Chances are that no other man is going to be better than the one that you found and feel like you can't live without. If that man treats you like your a goddess, tells you you are beautiful everyday, tells you I love you multiple times a day and would do anything for you ( slay dragons, defend your honor...etc) then he is worth keeping. So if you think you may have found something better.....you didn't....don't do it.<br />
Men on the other hand are a different story. Some of them are like women and are on the prowl for something better, which they don't find and end up screwing up that best thing that ever came into their lives. Some of them are just plain stupid and think that they are capable of keeping a secret from several different girls that they are fucking and then they get caught and try to come up with a lame ass excuse as to why it happened. The excuse never works and they are either left totally alone or end up with one or two of the girls still willing to fight for him. (These types of girls are seriously fucking stupid and should be shot. He cheated once...he will do it again.) Then, you have the vast majority of men who will be straight and admit that the only reason that they cheated was because its an animal instinct. Its the drive in men to be able to try an stick their dicks into as many women as possible before they die. There is no love, no emotion involved. Men have the ability to separate sex and love. They can just have sex with a girl and not have any feelings for her and then go home to the woman they love that stole their heart away and be happy. Its sort of like a parallel universe. Now, I'm not saying that because of this ridiculous ability that men were given, it's by any means an excuse for cheating, but it kind of explains the motive behind it all. <br />
Before you begin to lose all hope, there are a small population of men on this planet that can commit to a woman and she is all he will ever need. The thought of cheating may cross his mind, but he will never act on it because he know that he would be ruining the best thing that he ever found. He appreciates everything that you do for him and will do everything in his power to make you feel like the goddess that he knows you are. These men ladies, are the ones that you need to find and keep. I found mine and I will never let him go. I would clone him if I could....I would make a killing. He is my best friend and soul mate and I don't know where or who I would be with out him. If you find a man like my husband, KEEP HIM!!!! <br />
So in closing, I say this, the above reading are the differences between men and women and they reasons why we cheat. Use it as a lesson to learn not to or as a guide to find and stay away from those who do....cheating never did anyone any good and it never will. Until Next Time.......Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-57682776060662772412012-07-06T15:34:00.001-07:002012-07-06T15:34:19.131-07:00The Lingering Memory I know what you're thinking....the lingering memory of what? I'm referring to the lingering memory or memories of the past relationships that you have had or events in your life (even the simple ones) and how they can come back to the forefront of your brain with no warning. It might just take a song on the radio, a smell of a room, the way someone looks at you and soon you find yourself remembering that person that you may not have thought about for, sometimes, years. It doesn't matter if you are in the best relationship of your life, one little trigger will take you back to that person and time, leaving you wondering why you would even think of that now. It happens to all of us. You can sit and read this and think to yourself that it never happens to you, but just as you say that some memory of an old boyfriend/girlfriend or best friend will pop into your brain. Did you ever notice how much time can go by when that happens? You can seriously lose an hour of your life that you didn't know you lost until you snap out of the memory trance.<br />
This happens to me all the time. A lot of the time its just a song that will trigger it. Some of the memories are happy, some are sad, some I wish I could just plain forget. (Those are usually the ones that involve my ex husband). Don't get me wrong my ex and I had some fun times but when I look back on them all I realize that entire time we were together he decided that I wasn't enough and fucked anything that would let him near them. The bitch of it all was that I knew half of the people that he cheated on me with and they all knew that he was married. The bad part is that now I'm insecure about myself and most of the grievances I have towards my wonderful husband now are because of the stupid memories of my ex doing that same thing. An example....My husband plays C.O.D on Xbox quite often, my ex constantly played Socom on PlayStation...the difference between them, while my ex totally ignored me while he was gaming no matter what I did, my husband makes sure he comes up to kiss me or hug me or even talk to me while he is playing because he knows what my ex used to do and promised me he wouldn't be the same way. That doesn't keep the memory at bay but it helps. A song on the radio or on my ipod will take me back to my first high school boyfriend and all the fun that we used to have. I can honestly say I have no romantic feelings for him anymore but I can defiantly lose myself in some of those old memories of a simpler time. I can walk into a store that sells candles or incense and I remember my trip that I took to India and the way the inside of the hotel smelled, rich with incense and curry, the best smell to wake up to in the morning. The smell of coffee and bacon takes me back to my childhood and Sunday morning breakfast. My dad always cooked breakfast for us and played Pat Methany, Robert Johnson, Simon and Garfunkel and whatever else he had in his record collection while he cooked. A visit to my favorite place will bring back the painful memory of my first real crush and my first broken heart. It really doesn't take a lot, if you really think about it, to trigger an old memory. Like Clint Black said in one of his songs, " Ain't it funny how a melody can bring back a memory, Take you to another place in time, Completely change your state of mind."<br />
So in this short little post I will just say this....Indulge in those little moments. It's those moments in time that you remember that you always learn from. Good or bad there is a reason that those memories have the trigger that they do. One word of good advice though, don't do it while you're driving if you can help it. God forbid that the memory causes an accident or something else like that, anywhere else, daydream away!!<br />
Until Next Time...........Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-68633797843685767802012-06-23T14:35:00.001-07:002012-06-23T14:35:43.857-07:00Fifty Shades Of....Oh Hell Yes!!!!! <span style="font-size: large;">Warning: Graphic Language is in this blog, if you get offended easily I strongly suggest that you don't read!!</span><br />
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This time this entry is going to be more than just a blog, it's going to border on book review. I, like millions of other women out there, finally read the Fifty Shades Trilogy and am now obsessed with these books. How do I know that millions of others are reading it too you ask? These books have held the top four sales spots for book sales for the past few months. Maybe even longer, I really don't know for sure. All I know is that these books are amazing and I think every woman on the planet needs to indulge herself and read them!!!<br />
I honestly don't remember where I heard about Fifty Shades but I was ultimately interested when I heard that it started out as a fan fiction based off of the characters of Twilight. ( If you have been following and reading this blog I have randomly dropped hints that I am a Twilight fanatic as well.) So I, like any other person, googled this information and found the fan fiction in question. Now, for those of you who have no clue what fan fiction is, I will enlighten you. Fan Fiction are stories that fans of books or movies have created to either put their own twist on the same story, take the story further than the book/movie did or use the same characters as the original but make the story their own. This is what E.L. James did with the Fifty Shades Trilogy. She took the characters from Twilight and wrote them into her own story. When she decided that she wanted more than just a post on a web site she changed a few things, the characters names and BOOM!! Fifty Shades Trilogy is born!! Halleluiah!!!!!! Mommy Porn is born!!!! After reading the fan fiction aptly named Master of the Universe, I had to read the books.....the obsession was born.<br />
The whole story stars out with a young college girl, Anastasia Steele, who gets stuck doing an interview with a handsome, young business mogul, Christian Grey, as a favor to her flu ridden roomate. Anastasia is immediately taken with Christian but denies her feelings until she is asked to coffee by Christian at a photo shoot she arranged so there would be photos to go with the interview that was going to be published in the college paper. At this point the lurid yet delicious affair between Christian and Anastasia begins leaving women everywhere wanting their own Christian Grey. <br />
SPOILER ALERT!!!!!! If you haven't read the books yet and don't want to know what happens until you do I suggest that you close this page out now.....For those of you still with me....Time to get freaky!!!! What makes the affair and eventual relationship between Christian and Ana so delicious and keeps us wanting more is the forbidden nature of it. Christian is waaayyyy into BDSM. If you don't know what that is think whips, paddles and handcuffs mixed with awesome sex. There is more to it of course but well, you get the idea. Then a shocking truth is revealed, Ana is a virgin. This a truth that readers and Christian weren't expecting, but being the sexy and irresistible man that he turns out to be he remedies that situation with Ana's full consent. This is all after he reveals his intentions, makes her sign an NDA, and shows her what is affectionately referred to as the "red room of pain." As Ana looks around this room she promptly thinks "it feels like I’ve time-traveled back to the sixteenth century and the Spanish Inquisition." I will leave out the details of what she saw in this room but what was seen scared her and turned her on all at the same time. And so the sexy, torturous love affair between the submissive and her dominant begins, leaving all of us exploring the possibility that we want to maybe try out the "red room of pain." The sex scenes are plentiful with every woman wishing that they had sex 10 times a day and their boyfriends/husbands wondering where the sudden jump in their partners libido is coming from but not complaining because, well they're guys and sex occupies their minds ALL THE TIME. This wonderfully sexy novels do have a story line to them, everything from Ana overcoming a couple of Christians previous partners to an obsessive ex-boss that tries to kill them both. In the end, Ana finally gets her happily ever after.....Married to Christian and at the very end pregnant with her second child. Swoon!!!!!!!<br />
I loved every second of these books and don't recommend reading them unless you have a boyfriend, husband or even a fuck buddy. They will turn you on and you will want to have sex. If you read them and don't have one of those three humans I have mentioned above well you know what other options you have, either go without and deal with the feelings of desire and sexiness or take the route that every man takes and rub one out!!! (Although that doesn't always help either. ) This book is gonna make you want to as Christian Grey said to Ana " I don't make love...I fuck...hard." Trust me, I did. My libido was on overdrive in the four days that I was reading these books. My husband didn't complain. (obviously, what man would while they have a woman so crazed with desire that they have the urge to fuck him every which way from sunday.) E.L James did a fantastic job reaching into every woman's brain and pulling out those innermost, forbidden fantasies that none of us will ever really do and putting it on paper for us to read about. Men have their Playboys and Hustler and Porn, we have Christian Grey in unbuttoned, ripped jeans with a riding crop!!!! Face it ladies, as strong willed and independent as we think we are we all wanted Christian to dominate us at some point and time, and would have let him do ANYTHING he wanted.<br />
So in closing, READ THESE BOOKS!!! Get lost for a few hours in the sexy world that E.L. James created for us and if needed get to know yourself a little better!!! Until next time..........Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-40383469096355995062012-05-05T13:25:00.002-07:002012-05-05T13:25:55.488-07:00Ahhhh.....Young Love......*Sigh* I was sitting at work with my friend Stephanie and <em>One Time</em> by Justin Beiber came on my ipod that we were listening to. Yes, I can hear all the dreaded gasps and comments of "OMG you have Justin Beiber on your iPod!!!!" Yes I do. Just that one song. Why do I have just that one song? I think its cute. it was done before his voice changed so he still has that cute teenager voice and the song is about teenage love. While listening to the song I looked at Stephanie and I told her my realization: Love is never truer than it is when you are 15 years old. Don't get me wrong love is very true when you are older as well but its not the same kind of love.<br />
When you are 15, if you're anything like me, it's usually the age you start seriously dating and that first<em> real</em> boyfriend comes into the picture. (Some of you may have started out sooner but I didn't....late bloomer I guess) With that first boyfriend comes all the things that go with a first love. The constant butterflies, the hourly, lengthy phone conversations, the dread of being away from that other person for more than a few minutes and the snuggling. In my case, that first real kiss came into the picture. (like I said, late bloomer) Nothing else in the world matters but you and that other person. No complications of cheating, sex, or any other obstacle that you have to defend yourself against when you are in a more mature relationship. Everything is all bubblegum and rainbows. You make each other cards on valentines day and your boyfriend doesn't mind getting a cute little teddy bear that says I love you on it. Sitting with each other on the couch holding hands and cuddling is all you need to keep you safe and happy. During the school day you pass notes to each other in the hallways proclaiming how much you love that other person and how you would just simply die with out them. The kisses are sweeter, softer and mean so much more than any thing you have ever felt. They leave you feeling giddy and wanting more. The love between you two is pure and uncomplicated. Its sometimes the only time in your life that you can truly be with someone and not be anyone but who you are. That other person loves you for you and no other reason. Then the hormones of the lovesick teenager kick in.....and this is where <strong><em>EVERYTHING</em></strong> get screwed up.<br />
Nothing ruins a wonderful first love better than sex. At 15 or 16 we have all these racing hormones and desires and don't have a clue what the hell to do them. This is where we get the bright idea or ruining a good thing with sex. 90% of the time its the boy that mentions it. They then leave it up to the girl if they are going to have sex or not. Some guys pressure and others are very calm about it. What we don't realize at this age is that sex is wonderful and horrible all at the same time. It's wonderful because it makes you feel good and brings you closer to that other person. If you are truly in love it will bring you closer and make you fall even harder for that person. The bad side to it is that it complicates things by making the little things like holding hands and making out not mean as much as it used to. Before you has sex those things were enough to calm the desires for that other person, now it doesn't work as well as it used to and sex is the only way to quench this desire. This leaves a lot of young couples thinking that the only reason they are together is because of the sex because they forget the real reason they fell in love in the first place. The fighting begins and the cute teenage relationship turns into World War III. Break-ups ensue and you sometimes never talk to that person again.<br />
As you grow up, you find someone that brings the butterflies again. Even though they aren't the same butterflies that you got at 15, they are still the ones that tell you that you like and could love this person you've met. Through out your courtship, the hand holding, making out, and cuddling happen but the way all of these made you feel at 15 is lost and the more mature desire kicks in. The love making happens and the falling in love begins. The butterflies disappear but a stronger feeling of love and attachment kicks in and even though its not the same love as it was when you were 15 its just as strong. Eventually you will get married and maybe have a family. The relationship between you and your husband is strong and you could never imagine yourself with another man, but one day while you are just sitting alone or cleaning up your first love will pop into your head and you will reminisce about the days when things were simple and just a kiss would give you butterflies.<br />
So in closing all I have to say is this......Even though you are perfectly happy with your marriage or relationship that you are in its OK to remember a simpler time when kisses meant more and a hand holding yours would give you those happy butterflies.....until next time.......Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-19532082470515392972012-03-24T12:06:00.000-07:002012-03-24T12:06:59.175-07:00GLITTER!!!!!! I know, exciting title right? My husband and I got into a conversation about the female obsession with glitter one night after I felt compelled to buy not one, but 4 new nail polishes. What compelled this buy? Earlier that week my mom and I had gone shopping and we came across some Wet n' Wild nail polish. It was a glitter, sparkle polish in mulitple colors and mom said to pick one for myself and she would get it for me. Being as I have a propensity towards blue I found a bluish one amongst the collection and threw it in the cart. Later that day I decided to change the plain white french manicure I already had and followed the white tip with the new bluish sparkle. I was in awe. First of all, one coat almost was enough. Secondly, it was a full cover, full color sparkle.....meaning two coats and it totally covered the white tip with out any gaps. Last but not least it glittered in the sun like Edward Cullen with his shirt off. I was in love!!! I knew that I had to have more. The next day I went back to the store to find that they had four other colors in the collection and I bought them all. I was now the proud owner of a rainbow of sparkly colors, pink, purple, green, yellow and the already owned blue. Later that night I redid my sparkly tips and did each tip in a different color. "you women and glitter" was all the hubby said to me as he smiled and shook his head after I showed him my masterpiece. That comment sparked a conversation that inspired this blog.<br />
Woman are obsessed with glitter. Don't think so? How much glittery nail polish do you own? How much glittery make-up do you have on hand? (eyeshadow, blush, body powder, body lotion.) Probably more than you thought. Most of the time women can't buy make-up with out some type of shimmer or shiny already in it. A lot of times we go out of our way to buy it and mix it with what we have or use it on its own. Think about the Rennissance Festival, they have people paid to just walk around with a bottle of glitter and ask you if you want to be sparkled....and what do we say? Yesss!! Then we stand as close as possible and make sure they get us from head to toe with this stuff so that we can spend the day glittering in the sunlight as we walk around Holly Grove with fake british accents buying wooden swords and turkey legs as big as our heads. Why do we do this you ask? (my hubby asked too...) Because it doesn't matter how horrible we feel we put a little bit of glitter on ourselves and it will make us instantly happy. Don't believe me? Try it. One day when you are totally pissed off paint your nails with some glitter polish or put on a low cut shirt and use some shimmery lotion or body powder. I can promise that once the glitter catches the light your mood will instantly change and you will start posing like a super model in the mirror. Glitter makes us feel pretty. It makes us feel confident. We all love to feel like Tinkerbell sometimes. <br />
I think this might be where the saying "A diamond is a girls best friend" came from. Its not because we have an obsession with diamonds themselves but the sparkly effect that they have on us. Let's face it, other gem stones are pretty but nothing sparkles and glitters in the sunlight like a diamond. The bigger the diamond the bigger the sparkle. So for all of you men out there that think its the diamond we are obssessed with, it's not, we want the sparkle that the diamond gives off. Look around, I'm sure on a sunny day you will catch a woman checking out her rings and manipulating them in the sun to see the sparkly. We do the same with good glitter polish on our nails, which is why it is more popular to see in the summer months covering fingers and toes as opposed to the winter. We all have a need to feel good about our selves and I believe that nothing does that better than a little glittery pixie dusting or I can even quote How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days and say a little "frosting" might be all we need.<br />
So in closing, if your man complains about the glitter tell him to shove off. If it makes you feel good, let's face it we know it does, then abuse the glitter to your hearts content. Hell, when he's not looking dump some on him!!! He might get mad but it will make you laugh! Until next time.......Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-72857816801890903012012-03-03T14:42:00.000-08:002012-03-03T14:42:22.052-08:00Men are Mars...Women are from Pluto!!! I only say this because in a lot of respects woman are completely out of this world with their thinking. I only realized this the other day when my husband and I got to talking the differences between men and women. Not just obvious differences (yes I realize boys have a penis and girls have a vagina)but the differences in our relationships with other people, more specifically with our friends. After our conversation I was enlightened to the differences and was a little surprised at just how things really are. I don't want to betray my gender but women can be really ridiculous when it comes to friendships and keeping them. This is the only time that I think that men have it completely right.<br />
Men have friends and men will keep those friends for years. I'm not talking just a couple of years, but like they've been friends since they were in diapers, years. They might compete in everything from who has the better car to who gets the hot girl, but in the long run, men have friendships that will stand the test of time and these guys would do anything for eachother. They are genuinly there for eachother through the hard times, the good times, the bad times and they just enjoy hanging out doing nothing but watching TV. They won't go out of their way to screw eachother over just for the joy of seeing what would happen. When they have a diagreement, they won't end the friendship. They might not talk for a couple of days, but they do make up and the friendship goes on. If a friend of theirs calls them some derogotory name they come up with something equally bad until they go back and forth so many times that they do it to make themselves laugh. It becomes a game and all meaness goes out the window.There are few things that will cause men to end their relationships with their friends. Those few things will be a deal breaker for anyone. (Cheating with the others spouse, murder...you get the drift...all the REALLY bad stuff.)<br />
Women, well they're a totally different breed. How many of you can truely say that you have had a female friend that you have known all of your life? You might have one but chances are the majority of us do not and the friend that we have known the longest we have only known for a couple of years. Women have a tendency to write people off if they don't do, say, or agree with everthing that we believe in. We have an ability to end a friendship over something dumb that can be forgiven and forgotten but instead we drag out the cat fight looking for more reasons why we shouldn't be friends with that person anymore. We let our relationships with our guys interfere with our relationships with our girls. How many of you stopped hanging out with a friend because you just started dating a guy or the guy you have been dating doesn't like that certain friend? Don't feel bad, we have all done it. But we shouldn't. We go out of our way to try and make eachother look bad but act like the victim when things don't work out the way we thought they would. We pretend to be nice to eachother but constantly talk eachother down behind one another's back. We will talk a guy down to our friend until that friend loses interest in him and then go behind their backs and date that guy. In a lot of cases this behavior will completely end a friendship. The ridiculous thing is the girl that down talked the guy and started dating him will tell her new ex-friend "you snooze you lose". Maybe not exactly that phrase but one like it. Sometimes we will find that one true friend that we would go out of our way for and then something in us changes and we do everything we can to push that person away. I think it comes down to the fact that we think they know too much about us and we are paranoid that they will use what they know against us. Why do we think this? Because we are all guilty of doing it. What we need to do is take a page from the book that the boys go from......maybe then we can all have a longtime friend that we can trust. We can build the friendships that we all want. Trusting, lasting, and never judging. <br />
I have been told on several occasions that I'm part dude. All of my husbands friends think I have a mans brain because I understand what they do, why they do it and I still accept them for who they are. My husband told me the same thing when we had the discussuion on this very topic. I have a couple of close girlfriends and the rest are all guys....why? Because a lot of girls and myself don't get along because of the behavior descibed above. I don't understand how women can treat eachother this way. I've had it done to me and I'm sad for the fact that I have lost quite a few really good friends because they felt the need to do everthing I have talked about. I'm not innocent by any means and I will admit I have my moments that I can be catty but when it realy comes down to it I do my best to treat my friends with the respect that they deseve. I have managed to keep a couple of friendships for 10 years or better and my friends and I work on those friendships to keep them happy.<br />
In closing, all I'm saying is follow the golden rule and treat others the way you want to be treated. When you find that friend that you really trust, don't push them away because you think they know too much about you and if you do hear about a friend talking badly about you when you aren't around, go to them and talk to them about it instead of believing what everyone else tells you. You may find that there are two sides to every story. Until next time.......Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-54016355652387690172012-02-25T11:34:00.000-08:002012-02-25T11:34:36.230-08:00Ewwwww Hair....or Ooooooh Hair.....? This has been a common debate amongst the female population. Don't believe me? I heard a debate about it on my favorite morning radio show!! Do women like a hairy man or would we prefer that they waxed (or shaved) it all off. Well the answer to that lies with the woman. It's their choice. Yes, I realize that men have the choice but if they know what we like they are more than likely to do what we want. Why? Because if we like it then they're going to get laid. (don't deny it you know they will.) It depends on the woman on what they find sexier.<br />
The hair debate has been going on for ages and I'm pretty sure has been talked about on every women's gossip show on the planet at one point in time. Do women prefer their men to have body hair or not? My personal opinion? I love it! Now, I'm not talking gross hairy, I don't like if a man is so hairy he would rival Chewbacca. I don't wanna live with a Sasquatch. All I'm talking about is hair on the chest, a little down to the belly button and maybe a little on his back. The hair on the chest has to have a decent covering too, not just a few little hairs that they are proud of, but an even covering. Maybe a little showing out of the collar of their shirt but you don't want to see what looks like a small kitten trying to escape. The back hair should be there but just on the shoulder blades, maybe down the sides a little, and not thick. You don't want to have enough there to be able to brush and style. Just enough that you know its there. Now, if you're like me and you love everything I have just described, a man with these attributes will completely irresistible to you. I believe that the hair makes the man, you are not a real man unless you have it. The first time i saw my husband take his shirt off I was in awe and a completely changed woman. I used to be a girl that thought chest hair was gross. Just the thought of it made me just....ewwwwww. Then that first time he took his shirt off I was never more turned on in my life. He had hair on his chest and I was just unbelievably just....wow. I was literally speechless. I was converted and I loved it. I do understand that there are guys out there that just can't grow any hair on their chest. I knew a guy that could only grow three hairs and that's it. That doesn't make them any less of a man because of genetics. That simply puts them into the group of guys that women who don't like the hair. <br />
There are a lot of women out there who unlike myself and a few others would prefer a smooth hairless chest, back and otherwise. Now I can see the attraction, with a hairless chest you get to see the true muscle definition and you can lay your head on his chest with out having hair in your face. If he tans, his chest will tan evenly with out hair getting in the way. The six pack abs that he might have will be truly visible. I can vision all of you ladies now just picturing what I have described and I can guarantee that at one point in the thought you just had you either licked or slightly bit your bottom lip or both. Don't be embarrassed. We all do it. Every single one of has, does and still will. Even those of us, like me who prefer the hair, can appreciate the view. The guys will make sure they stay that way too, because they know that if their girl looks at them that way they have the excellent possibility of getting some of the best sex of their lives. And you know they do. Guys will put themselves through the pain of waxing, razor burn from shaving and try hair removal creams to keep us satisfied if that's what we like. They're not completely dumb. (a little but not totally)<br />
So in closing, I know that this one is a little short and that's why I am going to leave things open for discussion!!! Let me know what you prefer and why. Tell your friends to read this and have them comment. Who knows there may be a part two to this blog.....Until then.......Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-52727592429471739452012-02-12T11:02:00.000-08:002012-02-12T11:02:00.169-08:00For the Love of a Nerd I know what you are thinking by reading this title.....ewwwww nerds!!!! That's right this whole blog today will be about the people we call "nerds" and how they are greatly underestimated. Being considered a nerd myself all through high school, (at least I thought I was....) I can almost call myself an expert on the subject. A lot of people still consider me a nerd to this day because of the interests and hobbies that I enjoy. What people don't know is that those we consider nerds are probably some of the best friends that you can have and in a lot of cases the best lovers. (speaking from a girls perspective about nerdy guys....really not sure about the other way around.)<br />
So like I said, all through high school I thought myself to be considered a nerd. I was smart, did my own thing and never really hung out with the popular crowd. Take all of those factors into account and the label was formed. None of my friends were considered popular either...."nerds" as well. We did our own thing and had a great time. As I got older I reconnected with my high school best friend ( yes a guy) and we ended up dating and getting married. "Awwwwww you married your high school sweetheart..." Yes, yes I did and I have never been happier. My husband was a part of our group of "nerds" in high school and after getting to really know him I found out just how far the nerdyness went. <br />
He is BIG in video games and probably has played every game on the planet at least once at one point in time or another. He is really big into role playing, not the same role playing that you are thinking of, but role playing like dungeons and dragons. I have to admit I kinda giggled when I heard that until he got me to play once and now I'm hooked. I know that you are laughing right now but when you have an overactive imagination like I do this game is perfect. Its not much different from playing video games but its all on paper and using your imagination rather that relying on a computer to add all your traits and scores for you. I usually describe it to people as a group of people sitting around a table telling a story. You have worksheets to keep track of items, traits, hit points, weapons and other various things that help you character you created and are playing. There are dice involved, not just regular six sided dice that we are all used to but like ten and twenty sided ones that I had never seen nor did I know they existed until I started playing. You get as many people that you can and have a blast. You'll never know how fun it is until you try it once. He was big into Warhammer which is role playing but you buy and make the little figurines and the landscapes on which to play. This is all done on table top. I never got into playing the game but I loved sitting down and painting the figurines. He loves to read and between the two of us we have enough books to stock a small library. He doesn't dress in the latest fashions instead , he wears what he is comfortable in. So according to the stereotype of nerd, he fits the profile. What most don't know is that even though he is a guy and still has a little bit of those guy tendencies, he's an amazing husband. He's loving, caring, supportive and last but not least amazing in the sack!!!<br />
The point I want to make here is, a lot of us girls don't give the "nerdy" guys a chance because they aren't popular, aren't always the handsomest and some are into stuff that we turn our noses up at because we are afraid to stray from the norm and try new things. So, we continue to push our loyal nerd guy friends off to the side and go for the "popular" guy. You know, handsome, athletic, six pack and an ego that rivals the size of Jupiter type of guy that ALWAYS breaks your heart. (mostly because his ego is the size of Jupiter!!) Then we wonder what we did wrong. What we did wrong is push the nice guy away (nerd) and go for what society tells us is beautiful. I have been hanging out with my husband and all of his friends for almost ten years and I don't think I have ever met a more friendly, loyal, and down to earth crowd in my life. They met me once and instantly they accepted me no questions asked and would be there for me if I ever needed anything. That's how it should be for everyone. This world would be a better place if we were all accepted for who we are and not who we should be. <br />
I also know that those guys we consider nerds might not be the handsomest boys on the planet but if you find them sexy then who cares what other people think?? I used to be picked on all the time by a girl I used to work with about my husband. She didn't know what I saw in him. I didn't care. Yes he may be a red head with a temper to match, covered in freckles from head to toe, not have six pack abs and have a chest covered in hair, but I still find him irresistble. (and aren't real men supposed to have hairy chests and not shaved ones anyway??) As long as he's as fantastic as he is to me and I find him sexy, bullocks to what everyone else thinks. I have also come to find out that nerds can also be better lovers than your average man. They are more concerned with what they are doing and how they are making you feel rather than most guys who are in a race with you to have an orgasm and how they look doing it. Nerds, at least from my experience, like to make sure you are satisfied before they worry about themselves. They also like to cuddle. Now I want to reiterate that this doesn't cover all nerds and there are probably some out there that are just like your regular to average douchebag. I am only going by my experiences.<br />
So in closing, in the words of Bob Dylan (well not exactly), all I am saying is give nerds a chance. You might be surprised at what you find......until next time......Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-9429493344868786952012-02-03T16:04:00.000-08:002012-02-03T16:04:55.793-08:00Must Love Kids.....This one's for you Boys.....Pay Attention. How many of you ladies out there are single moms? How many of you have found a great guy that you can connect with but as soon as they find out you have children they stop calling and just become someone you once knew? I haven't ever experienced this myself, but I have several friends that have. I'm sending this blog out to all you guys out there. Girls, if you are in a relationship with a man and had kids already when you two got together, make him read this.....it's gonna be full of some good stuff. So you go out one night, for the first time in what feels like forever because finding a babysitter is hell, to have a good time with your friends. On this venture you meet what you believe is a charming and handsome prince, you guys have a couple of drinks and exchange numbers so that you can get together again. Over the next few weeks you go out to dinner, movies and all the other things that two people getting to know each other do. After about the third or fourth date the topic that most guys try to avoid comes up and you make it known to him that you have a child (or children). One of two things at this point will happen, the chicken shit man will in so many words say its been nice knowing you but he's not the biggest child advocate. Then he will be a coward and not even give the relationship a chance. The brave man will accept this twist in his reality and tell you he wants to be with you despite the fact that you have kids and will want to eventually meet them. The hard part is finding the right time for this man to meet your little ones. You're excited that he has accepted you and your life that way it was dealt to you, but you are also apprehensive because of the attachment your children will feel for this man over time should everything between you two work out. If things don't work out and a break-up ensues, these tiny humans have no understanding for what happened. Break-ups for children can be devastating, they don't understand why mommy and this man they have come to admire can't live together and get along. All I can say is, if you are going to have this man meet your children make sure that you both agree that you are going to give the relationship a good try. To all of the men that were made to read this same goes for you, if you really think that you can make it work with this amazing woman then by all means discuss with her a good time and place to meet her little ones. You have to ease into it and be prepared for these tiny people to hate you and/or be really shy.<br />
Now to all of you boys out there, make sure and I mean absolutely certain that meeting your girlfriends children is really what you want to do. Once you meet them and they warm up to you, (guaranteed that it will probably only take a couple of minutes) they are going to begin to look up to you and learn things from you. They are going to see you as a role model, someone that they can ask questions, someone to play games with and possibly a best friend. They will always have their biological father but depending on the circumstances between their mother and father, you are looking at being a big part of their lives. You have the opportunity to teach them different things, helping them with their homework, playing games with them and helping them with their problems if they want you to. If you and their father get into any arguments, and its bound to happen especially if you move in with their mother, don't let it get out of hand in front of the kids. It might hurt your pride to take the high road and keep your mouth shut but its more important for them to see you acting like a mature adult and handling things with out screaming, yelling, or violence. This same golden rule applies when you get into an argument with their mother. (Applies to you too ladies!!!) They are bound to see the two of you fight but keep it to a dull uproar. They are great receptors for stress and can feel it sometimes before we do, seeing two people they love fight and say hurtful things to each other gives them doubts of their place in the world. They begin to think that its because of them why you guys are fighting. If you know an argument is coming, wait until they go to bed and keep the yelling to a minimum so that they don hear you. Its better for them and in turn, better for you. <br />
So in closing, ladies if you have children and are considering letting your boyfriend meet them don't make the decision lightly. If he keeps pressuring you, tell him to back off and explain the nature of the situation to him. Sometimes boys need things spelled out for them. Guys, if you have a girlfriend with children, give her time and let her be sure that meeting her kids is a good decision for them. She doesn't love you any less but she has one or more other people to think about besides herself, she want to be sure shes making good choices for them. Last but not least, I realize that all of this can be reversed and the guy can have the kids and the girlfriend wants to meet his children. All the same rules apply!!! Patience and good choices for these tiny humans is what is ultimately important. With that said.....until next time..........Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-54434701735372336762012-01-26T15:36:00.000-08:002012-01-26T15:36:56.686-08:00SUUUUUUUPERRRRR FIIIIGGGGHHHHHTTTTTT!!!!!!!!! The name of the title of this blog may be a little silly for the topic, but hey why can't we have some silly in our lives? I named it super fight because I'm going to get in to the differences between fighting as a dating couple and as a married couple. To those of you that read this regularly that aren't married: Yes there is a difference between the fights. Married fighting is waaaayyyy more interesting. <br />
When you are in a long term relationship with someone there are bound to be fights. You have two people that iregardless how similar they are they still have alot of differences and when you get both parties in the same room on a bad day an argument will form. Angry words will be said, insults thrown, (along with maybe an inanimate object)and majority of the time the couple loses steam and forgets what they are arguing about. In that event they make up until the next argument where all of a sudden the topic of the previous fight rears its ugly head. The funny part about this is that originally the man (once again the term used loosly) will forget he topic of the fight which instigates the making up but when the new fight starts even weeks later he is the first one to bring up what the first fight was about. The answer to why this happens still baffels women all over the world. Men will forget birthdays, anniversarys, and other mundane activities but they will remember why you two argued about 6 months ago. This is besides the point and maybe a topic for another day, today we are going to get into married fighting and why its more fun than fighting when you're not married.<br />
Couples that have been together for a couple of years but are unmarried fight just as much as everyone else. Arguing in a relationship is healthy as long as it doesn't get violent. They fight about work, paying bills, and other stupid little things that don't involve anything more intense than "he forgot to give me money for rent, therefore I hate him." I'm not saying that couple in a relationship doesn't really get into good fights but the topics start getting a little thin and neither party wants to bring anyhting real serious into the fight because the possibility of a break-up is always there. They usually keep the fights to being angry because the house is messy, not having enough money from the other individual to help pay the bills or boyfriend/girlfriend being out too late with their friends while the other stays home. The days long drag out fights where the couple spends a couple of days not speaking to the other is usually a good signal of the relationship coming to an end. A lot of couples end their years long courtships over one supermassive fight. Both parties take their things and go their seperate ways. Short, sweet, simple, done. Just like pulling off a band-aid. Married couples, its a completely different world.<br />
When married people fight they fight over all the same stupid things that every other couple fights over but there are joint bank accounts and families involved. When you're married the fights usually don't result in any form of break-up unless there are adulterers present or there is violence. The days long drag out fights are marathons frought with mumbled insults, snide comments and other creative ways of torturing the other person with out actually looking at them or talking to them in any way. Sometimes us married folk even result to practical jokes to make the other person look as ridiculous as possible in front of other people with out those people even knowing that the married couple is arguing. Married people also have the ability to drag the other persons family into the argument. One of my favorite quotes by Jeff Foxworthy when he talked about this same topic was "well I guess we'll just live like your fat alcoholic mother then..." And oddly enough comments like that are not far from the truth. When married people run out of insults for the other person we immediatly turn on the others family. It doesn't matter if we love our in-laws they are usually the first ones on the chopping block and we work our way through the list of family members. We think of as many ridiculous insults that we can to not even prove a point but try to make our partner as angry as possible. Secretly I think we like to get a good heated argument going because when the apologies are handed out and we make up the make up sex is amazing. Most of us forget our inhabitions in the heat of the moment and will do some pretty crazy things that we will never admit to later on. So as you can see good things do happen because of fighting.<br />
So in closing, as long as the fighting is productive its a good thing. (especially if there is make up sex involved!!!) And if you're married and you guys have already dragged the whole faily in then get creative. Come up with as many ridiculous insults that you can you guys might end up laughing instead of fighting!!! Until next week........Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-56790113390203196282012-01-24T20:05:00.000-08:002012-01-24T20:05:10.435-08:00Have No Fear Super Mom Is Here!!!!!!!!! To all of my regular readers, I am going to go a little off subject here, (normally I write about sex and relationships)this time its more about relationships. How many of you women out there are married? How many are married with children? How many of you married with children don't get a day off even if you are so sick that you can't move? I'm willing to bet the answer to the last question is going to be all of you. If this article offends any of the hardworking men in our lives, I don't mean to, I have just come to realize that a lot is expected out of women especially when we have kids.<br />
The whole idea of this started when my co-worker and I were sitting at work one day when we both got called in early because everyone else was sick. (The person I am referring to was actually really sick and none of this applies to that individual we just came up with these ideas because of the situation.) Now, I know that calling in or going home and calling someone in to cover you when you are sick is proper work etiquette, I don't deny that that is the right thing to do so that everyone else and their family doesn't get sick from one person. What I have noticed it that most of the time its the men calling in when they have a sore throat or a cold, but when women are sick we only call in to work when we are almost literally on our death beds. A sniffle to us is like a butterfly disturbing an elephant, only mildly annoying. A sniffle to a man usually signals the end of the world. A full blown cold is like Armageddon. We sat and thought at work that day why that is and have come to realize that women have to be tough. We were created to have the ability to go through nine (or ten) months carrying a human in our bodies and then giving that human life in the birthing process. We were imbued with the curse of having a monthly menstrual cycle to where on average we bleed for five days and just have to put up with it. Let's not forget the mind numbing cramps that go along with the ever constant discomfort of having a period. We clean, take care of the children, work, and try to maintain a happy healthy household. We don't do it because we have to we do it because we want to. Men could never deal with half of the things that women go through. Our monthly cycle alone would put a man in a crumpled lump on the floor whining and that would only be the first day. Women, we pop a midol or other over the counter medication to help ease the pain and discomfort and go on about our day with minimal amount of complaining. We were built to be tough and withstand most anything. We don't let much get in our way. Even on our day off, we don't get the day off. I don't know about you but my days off of work consist of cleaning, organizing and taking care of my almost two year old little guy. Its not because I have to do it but because I want to. My husband helps and is more than happy to help, but as I am sure most of you know we all have our ways of cleaning and doing things and sometimes those boys of ours just don't do it the way we want it done. Its the same with taking care of the little ones. Our husbands/boyfriends help with the rearing of the children but as every woman knows until our kids reach the age of 3 or 4 the only person they want to be with is mommy. So on top of housework we also have a tiny human hanging on our every action.<br />
I don't want this to sound like I am doing any kind of man bashing because I'm not. I love my husband and in the 8 years we have been together he has made me a stronger and wiser person. He understands me and everything about me, but he also says repeatedly that women are crazy. I tell him that if men had to deal with all the responsibilities of a woman that they would probably be crazy too and with a moment of thought he usually nods his head in agreement. So I am going to end this shorter entry with this: Boys, next time you think that your wife/girlfriend is going bat shit crazy over nothing, think about what she has to go through every day. Be thankful that the woman in your life is there to help you, be there for you, and love her the way she deserves to be loved. Until next time..........Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-32228975838627587952012-01-09T16:01:00.000-08:002012-01-09T16:01:36.014-08:00The Pornstar Girlfriend Most of you right now are probably reading that title and thinking,"WHAT?" I warned you all in the beginning that the entries were going to get a little racy and I fully plan to hold up to that promise. Fist of all, don't take the title lliterally. Your husband/boyfriend does not have some girl stashed off to the side. (If he does then you have my full permission to kick his ass.) This is all about the one thing that every guy does and none of the women will admit that they know about, masturbation and porn. Now, I don't want to imply that women never do, we all do whether we want to admit it or not, but I am going to put out there that men do it waaaaaayyyyyyyy more than women do. (Unless you're like Samantha from Sex in the City....) If you can just get your head around the fact that it happens then all will be okay.<br />
I'm going to start off by saying that masturbation is a perfectly normal and healthy thing and at some point and time in every one's lives we have all done it at least once. If you say you never have then, you are either lying or you are just too weirded out by the idea and have been to scared to try. I'm putting money on the lie part. You also shouldn't be embarrassed by it. Its a wonderful thing, a good stress reliever, help you fall asleep when you can't sleep, or if you're having a bad day it can make it A LOT better. I also believe that men pretty much hold the monopoly on this action. Most women can do it and then not do it again for weeks or even months, with men, its an almost everyday event. The funny part is depending on the relationship they have with their wife/girlfriend they will totally deny doing it as much as they do until they get caught. I will also guarantee that at some point they will get caught by you, to which some of them will still deny it. If you catch your man, don't get angry. They will probably be embarrassed enough that they really don't need the extra humiliation of a fight over it. They don't love you any less and they don't find you any less attractive its just what guys do.<br />
The next thing I'm going to mention is usually where the fight starts about masturbation. Porn. Every man has a collection of porn. EVERY MAN. Even if they say they don't they do and they have just hidden it so well that you will never find it or stashed it at a friends house so you won't see it. Just keep in mind that it exists. I can imagine right now I have a bunch of women reading this shaking their heads thinking that their man doesn't have one. Trust me they do. When women masturbate they can usually use their imagination to get them to the finish line, men, they need the visual stimulation to get them to that same place. Its not necessarily that they are attracted to the women on the computer or TV screen, but the change of scenery and the action on the screen. Seriously ladies, let's face it, most of us are soooo not willing to do half of the things that happen in the adult flicks that our significant others are watching. (you know its the truth, have you ever watched one of those?) Some women find a great offense to this collection and once they get married they make their new hubby's get rid of their porn star girlfriends with the thought that they should be enough. They are fine to think that but with men porn doesn't translate into "my wife isn't good enough therefore I have to watch naked chicks get it on on DVD "its more of just "oohhh look boobs I haven't seen before". They don't love you any less. Men are instinctive creatures that have the need and desire to stick their penis into just about anything they can. Watching and masturbating to porn quenches this instinctive thirst that they have to run out and bone anything and everyone. If that gets taken away from them unwillingly then they have more of a tendency to find another way to quench that thirst. (we all know what that means right?) So next time you find that porn stash or catch your husband/boyfriend in the act, either let it go or just make it known that he needs to find a better time and place. (if it makes you uncomfortable. out of sight out of mind.) If you find it one of the most sexiest encounters you have ever come across then be sure to let him know. Open and honest is always the best policy.<br />
So when you wake up at three in the morning and your significant other is mysteriously missing and you can see the glow of the TV from the other room....give the man some privacy and let him do his thing. It will make him happier, it will make the relationship happier and always know that he still loves you as much as he did before you found out about all of this and if you are understanding about it he will love you more for it. So long as you are still getting good lovin's on a regular basis and masturbation hasn't taken over your sex life, let it go and enjoy the man for who he is......until next week........<br />
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Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-61286259392189094722012-01-05T14:35:00.000-08:002012-01-05T14:35:50.229-08:00To Three or Not To Three?......The Ultimate question. Most of us, as women, have heard this question more than once in just about every relationship we have had and have politely patted our silly significant other on the head kissed his nose and brushed it off. What I want to know is have any of you out there ever really seriously sat down and talked about it?? Have you ever sat down with your boy and talked about the possibilities of entering a third into your sex life? ( I warned you guys in the first entry of this blog that the topics would get racy.) I have and even though I haven't gone through with it, (nor do I think I ever will.) there are A LOT of things to take into account and to really consider.<br />
OK, so I know that most, if not all, of the time its usually our boys that come up with the idea of a threesome. Most of the time they are joking around and only mention it so get a rise out of us because they know that its a kind of taboo subject. Then there are those select few that are totally serious. They have fantasized about it enough to know that its something that they want to try and they will keep dropping hints towards it. It's also something that can be easily pushed to the back burner and discussed at a later date if you both choose to do so. I have realized that its usually guys that do the threesome fantasizing and its usually the girls that push it to the back burner. If you do decide to have a serious discussion about a threesome whether you are actually going to have one or not, make sure that you are truthful about what you want and how you want it to happen. I don't think there is anything worse than setting expectations under false pretenses and then realizing it wasn't what you wanted. The situation is going to be weird enough as it is try to make it as comfortable as possible by expressing what you really want and not what you think he wants. ( Even if all you ever do is just talk about it.)<br />
The first thing that you definitely going to want to be clear about is who the third will be. The first thing he's gonna do is probably pick the hottest friend you have and drop her name. This will of course get a reaction out of you that will cause him physical harm in some way. (punch in the shoulder, smack in the back of the head....) But then consider it......depending on the relationship between you and the aforementioned individual they may be a candidate. It all really depends on if you want that person to be someone that you know and trust or a complete and total stranger. It also depends on if you plan on the three of you getting together again in the future. My personal opinion, if its going to happen more than once a friend may be a good choice but just keep in mind that this person is your friend and you will be hanging out with them after said event. If its just a one time affair then maybe someone you don't know as well but they are an acquaintance. Don't ever go for a complete stranger because God only know what repercussions may follow that idea. (Seriously you could end up with a complete and total psycho and be ax murdered)<br />
The second thing you are going to want to do after you have decided to bring this fantasy to life is set some ground rules between the three of you. Be very open and honest because as I have already stated there is nothing worse than setting expectations and have them not hold up to what you wanted. If you are married and you are bringing a third into the mix, this is very important. A miscommunication can ruin marriages and friendships. Make sure you express what you want to happen and how you want it to happen so that the only unexpected is that you like it more than you thought you would. (It can happen!!!) Depending on the person the couple decides to "three" with, rules should be set if two of the three are already friends. What those rules happen to be, well, that's up to the the three involved. As long as there is an understanding that there are rules set and they should be followed unless all involved talk about any changes that want to be made.<br />
And the last thing is......enjoy yourself. If you have gotten to the point that all the decisions have been made and the three of you have laid down all the rules, try it out. There is nothing wrong with changing your mind and calling the whole thing off but don't immediately stop everything and get into a cat fight with your best friend because she kissed your boyfriend/husband during the event. Try it out, let your inhibitions go, and see what happens. Who knows you might like it and want to try it again or you won't and you never have to do it again. Sex is a very beautiful thing and sometimes sharing it with more than one other person can be an enlightening experience. You may also find out that its not for you and the only other person you want to share your body with is your boyfriend/husband. There is nothing wrong with that and nothing wrong in exploring your sexuality. Whats good for one person may not be good for another.<br />
So with all that said I will say again that these are my personal opinions and its up to you to listen to them or not. Until next time my readers.....Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-71968021108982179852011-12-26T15:29:00.000-08:002011-12-26T15:29:01.017-08:00You're not Edward and this isn't Twilight....Buh Bye.... This weeks topic will probably sound very familiar to a lot of you ladies. Have you ever had that boyfriend that no matter how you treat him, what you do to him, or what you say to him he just won't go away? You tell him to move out, leave you alone, or that the relationship is just plain over and they keep telling you they love you and that you guys can make it work....sorry buddy, not gonna happen. <br />
When a relationship is over, women usually know before men do. Women usually know before the relationship is actually over. It's a sixth sense that we all have built in us. We can tell when the man in our life is no longer interested in spending time with us, but his friends and/or the bar are the most important things in his life. If you call him out on this, he will deny everything and sometimes will spend the next couple of days proving to you that you are the most important thing to him. He will "break-up" with his friends and spend time with you. After a couple of days though, the teasing and taunting of his "boys" will get to him and he's back to his previous relationship with them instead of you. Fighting between the two of you will become more frequent and a little more hostile causing doors to slam and inanimate objects to suddenly come to life and superman across the room. Gauntlets are thrown and words are said that can't be taken back. The life of the relationship is slowly sucked out and all that is left are two people that are merely coping with the other. There is no love, no respect, no understanding and barely a friendship. Both parties are aware of this, but most of the time its the woman that says something to the man. (I use the term "man" very loosely.) I think the reasoning behind that is they know if they break it off before we do we are going to cry and accuse them of cheating. ( don't deny it you know that's the first thing we do.) If we break it off first, its almost like a get out of jail free card. Usually after the the-relationship-is-over talk one party decides that they are going to move out depending on whose house/apartment it was when the other moved in. Most of the time the boy will move out to some bachelor pad with his buddies skipping down the street with his belongings in a bag over his shoulder. Sometimes the girl will move out, but usually only if she knows one of two things: 1) that if she moves out her ex won't be able to afford the rent even if he does get a roommate. 2) they ended up living with his family in some way and she really has no choice. (it can happen, it happened to me.) On a good note the girl usually ends up with the place that they both shared. ( boys don't want that responsibility.) Sometimes they remain friends afterwards sometimes they don't but in the end everyone is unbelievably happy. Then there is the other type of guy....the one that won't follow the rules of the break-up and just go away.<br />
There are a few men (once again I use the term "man" loosely) that even though they know the relationship is over, the break-up fight has been fought, and the gauntlets are thrown, leaving is not a priority. They always find some excuse to stay, whether it be that they have no place to go, they can't afford to move out on their own or they won't go because they put just as much money into the house/apartment or other possessions that the woman has and they want re numeration of some kind before they go. They will come up with any excuse so that they can stay in the comfy security that was built around them. (this is also why a lot of men still live at home well into their thirties.) They got so used to you cleaning up after them and doing other things for them that they will come up with any excuse that they can not to give that up. You could literally cheat "on" them and they would find some excuse to forgive you so that they can stay. Now by all means, if you guys think you can still make things work, stay together and work things out. But, if the "break-up" fighting has ensued then its best to go your separate ways. When he doesn't there are a few things you can do: 1) pack his stuff and set it (or throw in a giant messy pile) outside of the place you guys share. If it's an apartment, balconies are great for dumping personal items off of. 2) Plan and execute a move to a different place and don't tell him. (just don't answer the phone when he calls wondering where you are or the jig is up). If neither one of these suggestions work, if you got in good with his family sometimes you can talk them into talking to him. Sometimes they will just come grab his stuff and let him know to go to them instead of coming home to you. You also always have the choice of leaving but that once again factors on the living situation and whose name the home is under. Sometimes you can talk some sense into them, but its not likely. Whatever you do though ladies, don't fall for the sweet talk that is headed your way. It will only prolong the inevitable and make things messier than they probably already are.<br />
And so, there you have it. No exactly foolproof, but it might work better than letting him stick around making your life miserable. Now I will put this out to my readers, if you have been in this situation and you have another way to handle it, please leave a comment on this blog and share your knowledge with the rest of woman-kind!!! Until then my faithful readers........ Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-12650014265380906202011-12-17T10:57:00.000-08:002011-12-17T10:57:59.992-08:00The Promise Ring Affairpromise ring(n)-1. a ring given prior to an engagement ring. 2. another name for an engagement ring. 3. a piece of jewelry given to a woman by a man as a last ditch attempt to keep her around because he knows that she's unhappy and wants out of the relationship.<br />
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That's right my loyal readers, we are delving into the meaning behind that small, sparkly known as the promise ring. I want to warn you that I will probably offend some of you with my opinions so I'm going to say to you now, read at your own risk. ( honestly the only reason you're going to be offended is because what I'm going to be talking about is the exact situation you're in and you just haven't come to terms with it yet.) <br />
The promise ring.....in most relationships this token of affection is given when the two people (or three if that's your preference) care deeply for one another but may not be ready to take the plunge of an engagement or marriage. The relationship may still be new, they may not be able to afford an engagement ring or they are too young to even consider thinking about marriage. The only thing that the couple does know is that they love each other, they want to make an effort to go the long haul and they want something to symbolize their promise to the other that they are in this forever. They (in a lot of cases just he) then decide to make a surprise visit to a jewelry store where there are several choices to decide upon. Most promise rings range in price from around $100 on up. Some are less some are more. Now if you have to put a spleen on deposit or re-mortgage your house for a promise ring then that wold be considered an ENGAGEMENT ring and then you're just on your way to wedding planners and marriage ceremonies. My personal opinion a promise ring shouldn't cost more than $300 to $400. Spend any more than that and you might as well just take the plunge and get married. All a promise ring should be is a gold, white gold or silver band with a small diamond or two.(or whatever gem stone your significant other prefers. Get creative) It should be what it is, a promise for the forever commitment of marriage. (Let's not forget the opportunity to get a bigger and better ring.) If the couple so chooses they can both have a promise ring but the honor is usually reserved for the girls. I know you boys out there are feeling a little left out but I can almost guarantee if your intentions are true and you buy your girlfriend a promise ring for all the right reasons, you are pretty much guaranteed access to some booty......( We all know that is what's mainly on your mind in the long run, don't deny it.) In the end everyone is happy and no longer in need of some sexual healing. ( thank you Marvin Gay for that term!!)<br />
Now we get to that other reason the promise ring is bought. Its not a pleasant one and I myself have been a victim of the tactic. The boy in the relationship begins to realise that his girlfriend isn't happy with him any longer. The two are arguing all the time, they are spending more time apart than they are together, they both feel like they are headed in different directions and there is constant nit picking. They still have feelings for each other but they can't see themselves being with one another for the rest of their lives. So in a last ditch attempt to try and keep their girl around, the boy will purchase a promise ring and present it to his girlfriend in the most romantic way possible. He does this so that there is minimal chance of failure of the ring being accepted. Along with this presentation he makes promises that he will change his ways and that things between the two of you will get better. The bad part of all of this is, we accept it and delude ourselves into believing these false promises. Things are good for a couple of weeks or even a couple of months but then go right back to where they were and we feel like we have to stick around because we accepted this token of false promises. We are feeling like we are stuck in an unhappy relationship or, if it even went this far, marriage. ( it did for me....) Word to the wise ladies, unless you can see yourself with this man for the rest of your life and you are happy with the way the relationship is going, don't accept the promise ring. Don't make yourself feel trapped when you are truly unhappy with the situation. It's OK to say no. I don't even care if you ended up having a child with this person, if you guys can't get along together then it might be better if you weren't. Your children will be all the better for it. Don't let yourselves get trapped in a loveless marriage because neither one of you had the balls to tell the other that it's over. The big thing about a good relationship is communicating and not holding back. ( haven't I mentioned this like 1000 times?) A lot of are probably saying something along the lines of "promise ring isn't engagement ring, because I accept doesn't mean we have to get married" and to that you are absolutely right. But, why would you accept something that would eventually lead to marriage if you weren't thinking about marrying this person?? <br />
So with ALL of that said I will end this with a few more words of wisdom, think before you act. Your actions could come up and bite you in the ass in the long run. (or in my case give me an EX husband....) Seriously consider all of your options if you aren't happy with the course your life has taken. And for all of those of you that are in a good healthy relationship, I wish you nothing but the best and hope for you that your life turns into what ever you dreamed of it to be. Until next week...stay thirsty my friends...(10 points for whomever can tell me where that line comes from.)Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-74052173349441561492011-12-11T19:58:00.000-08:002011-12-11T19:58:02.055-08:00When Harry Met The Valley Ok Ladies, I want to ask you, how many times ( if at all ) have you been kicked out of bed and sent to the showers because you hadn't shaved in a week or so? You know what I'm talking about, you're getting ready to get down and dirty with the boyfriend/husband, he touches your leg and feels the prickly hairs instead of smooth skin. He will at this point do one of two things, he will out right ask you if you would go shave before you have sex or he will make you feel guilty about not shaving for a while that you end up just getting up and doing it anyway. This is when he will not so subtly throw in there something about shaving or trimming up the nether regions while you're in there. Now being a victim of this behavior, I know how it feels to be in the moment and then all of a sudden have it implied that unless the hair is gone there will be no lovins. I know alot of you are going to say, "that's never happened to me!! I always keep everything soft and smooth." The only thing I have to say to that is.....bullshit. At some point in time in every womans life we either forget to shave or just plainly don't unless we are going to be showing our legs. I will plainly admit, when winter comes and I know that the only other person seeing my legs is my husband, I might shave once a week. The nether regions I do at the same time. Alot of you right now are probably like "ewwww gross", but think about it whether you shave or wax that specific area, if you do it too often you get some serious irritation. Either the hair isn't long enough to wax or if you shave and the hair is too short...instant razor burn. Very uncomfortable and unless you're in the porn industry, filthy rich, or just happen to have thousands of dollars lying around laser hair removal isn't really an option. Now to get to the real meat and potatoes of this topic.....how many of those men that kick us out of bed actually take care of their own regions south of the border on a regular basis???<br />
Most guys think that women have it so easy and that we can just wake up and automatically feel like the beautiful goddess they tell us we are. Word to the wise boys, you might think we are gorgeous first thing in the morning with no make-up, shower, or coffee but what you think and how we feel are completely different. Men don't realize that the littlest bit of lip gloss can make us feel better than we did with out it. We go through alot to make ourselves feel sexy so that we are confident about our bodies and want to show it off. I think if we have to go through all the trouble of shaving, make-up, keeping our bodies toned and sexy I think men need to take an extra ten minutes a week to trim and groom the forest that surrounds their penis. First of all, it helps us out with any oral pleasure sessions. We don't have to worry about moving anyhting out of the way or (ewww) pick anything out of our teeth. (its gross I know but admit it, it does happen). Secondly it definatly makes the penis look a little bigger. The shaving doesn't stop there though, the boys need to shave their boys too. I know alot of guys are going to be opposed to this idea but if we have to go through it don't you think that they should too?? <br />
All the boys have to do is use a trimmer. No wax, no goofy hair removal creams, nothing extravagant of any kind. A trimmer, a razor and some shaving cream is more than sufficient. I'm not saying to make them go <strong><em>completely</em></strong> hairless ( unless we are talking about the balls and then all the hair has to go!!) but just enough to keep it neat and out of the way. They are going to be totally opposed at first to this idea but if you tell them to try it just once for you, they will probably do it. This is one of those times that we can kick up our persausive feminine wiles to make them try something new. I think once they see how much you like it and how much bigger their penis looks they will be more willing to keep it up. Let's face it most if not all men are concerned (okay obsessed) with the size of their man hood and will do anything to make it look bigger. If they will let you offer to trim for them and show them that its not so bad. <br />
I know at first they will be opposed to this idea and they might not even believe you when you tell them that you go through alot to be beautiful for them. I just think that if they expect us to do it don't you think that they should do it for us? So I put this out to everyone that reads this blog......I want to know your opinion. To shave or not to shave? Do you like your man to do some manscaping or do you prefer that they keep everthing the way it is?? Do you have a funny story that you want to tell? Let me know, just post a comment or send me an email on facebook. So until then my readers, I know this one was a little short, hasta la vista until next week.............Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-6541520186146844902011-12-02T21:14:00.000-08:002011-12-02T21:21:04.190-08:00Arnold did it...why can't you? I was at work the other day and I got into a conversation about my decision to have my son be an only child with one of my co-workers. He tried to make the point that every man seems to make when they ask this question, "Being pregnant isn't really that bad, is it?" This is when I realised that most guys think that women have it so easy and they really don't realise the annoyances that we have to deal with on a regular basis. They think that being a woman is so simple because most, not all, but most of us don't do the manual labor jobs and lift heavy, weighty items everyday. They are naive to the hard work it takes to be a woman and the even harder job it is if you are a stay at home mom. They have a great misunderstanding that our lives as women are a breeze......I'm here to hopefully correct that thinking. So ladies, if you have a husband, boyfriend, brother or even just a guy friend that has conveyed any of the above thoughts to you gather 'em up and have them read this and maybe we can straighten them out once and for all!!! YAY!!!!!!<br />
Okay boys, this one is for you to read and learn. This is not going to be like that Family Guy episode where the lady in the video asks all the women to leave the room and then she gets naked. Not gonna happen....but you're probably going to read this anyway because I gaurantee your girl is watching over your shoulder and giving you a dirty look hoping that you might actually learn something. First of all, I have heard alot of men tell their significant other that PMS and having our unfortunate monthly period can't be that bad. They have all said that we whine too much about it and to suck it up and deal with it. To that I have to say, I dare all of you doubting men to try it. Just for a couple of days. I dare all of you to bleed for five days straight, have to deal with mind numbing cramps, raging hormones and having to spend $20 to $30 a month on feminine products. Its not as easy as it sounds. You don't feel like yourself and all you want to do is curl up under a blanket and cuddle up until it's all over. (I promise you guys that I don't think you would last more than a day) The bad thing is that we can't, we still have to go to work, clean the house, take care of the kids and all the other random chores that we take care of everyday. Now I know that you boys are still thinking, "Yeah, that still doesn't sound that horrible." And honestly you guys will truely never know but I can give you a pretty good comparasion. Imagine the worst stomach cramps that you have ever had paired with being in the worst mood you have ever been in. Multiply that by 10 and you might have the slightest clue what we have to go through every month. Now if that doesn't sound bad enough, we also have to put up with you boys telling us that we need to stop whining about our periods and just suck it up and deal with it. Just to let you know, that doesn't help our mood or the situation. I'm not asking you guys to walk on egg shells once a month all I'm asking is if you realise that one week out of the month we are over sensitive and uncomfortable and that week is usually the one that you feel like being a bigger jerk than usual. All we want is a little understanding and maybe a little extra cuddling. (Maybe if you're really nice, sex may not be an option but the oral pleasure for you guys might be...eh...eh..something to think about huh?) So next time your girlfriend or wife is having that special time of the month a little kindness and compassion can go a long way.<br />
Now the other misconception, pregnancy being easy. WRONG!!! I'm not going to lie....being pregnant is a beautiful thing and you don't really realise the miracle unless you have experienced it. Being as I have, I can say, it was amazing. I won't do it again but it is a beautiful experience. Its also not as easy as it looks. Now I know that if you have kept reading this your girlfriend/wife has either made you or you actually found this blog interesting. ( I'm betting on the first reason) You guys really don't understand what our bodies go through to bear your children, so I am going to make it my responsibility to tell you. Pregnancy isn't all teddy bears and bows, our bodies get morphed at a rapid rate leaving us uncomfortable and covered in stretch marks. The first three or four months we are taken over everyday by constant nausea and sometimes vomiting, no energy and feeling just plain yucky. The next three months we start feeling better but this is also when we start showing, the body morphing begins. The last few months we spend with swollen feet, hands, cravings for wierd foods, and we have a human being living in our swollen abdoman that is ever moving and trying to get out. Then comes labor and delivery. I'm not going to get into the nitty, gritty details but I can give you and idea of whats its like. I have heard that the only thing that can be compared to labor pain is a kidney stone. Take that pain constant for any where from 5 to 36 plus hours and then try shoving something the size of a watermelon out of a hole the size of a lemon. There you have it, childbirth the way men can understand. Now to all of you husbands and boyfriends out there with children, I will give you the benefit of the doubt that you have some idea of what its like for us to give birth. I can only assume that you were there for the birth of your child and have seen labor and delivery first hand. (I only know this because it doesn't matter how much we might hate you, we always want you there for this event.) For those of you who haven't had this experience I only ask this, be compassionate towards your girlfriend/wife. All it takes is being nice, helping out a little more, holding her hand and being there for her. Thats really all we want, compassion, love and for you to be there for us with a couple of encouraging words. If you do this for us I promise we will make more of an effort to hold the crazy hormones under control and make the experience of pregancy more enjoyable for the masses. For those choice few men that have read this and still say that we are just whining I want you to strap about 30 or 40 pounds to the front of your body and walk around for a full 24 hours. After you have done that let's see how you feel.....I promise it wont feel good. Now imagine doing this everyday for roughly 10 months. (Yes 10 months....4 weeks in a month, prego for 40 weeks.....you do the math.) <br />
I'm not going say that pregnancy doesn't have its good moments, it does, nothing compares to feeling your baby move for the first time. But after about month 7, its to the point that if the baby moves the wrong way, mom is getting kicked in the ribs. Let's not forget to mention the hourly trips to the bathroom because the baby has decided to settle themselves on moms bladder. Some women are made for pregnancy and love being pregnant. More power to you ladies that can do it more than once, you are a stronger woman than I. The rest are like me who did it once and ended up with a beautiful child that they love more than life itself but have no plans to ever do it again. It wasn't hard on me but it was on my body. I love my son but my world is just perfect with just one.<br />
So there you go ladies, a blog for the men in your life to read so that they may gain a little more insight to the life and times of the beautiful woman in their lives. Let's hope they have learned something.Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-35449292852218915022011-11-26T20:48:00.000-08:002011-11-26T20:54:01.987-08:00"Babe you're everything to m.....ooohhh look at the kitty." You can ask just about any guy what they want in a girlfriend/wife and they will all tell you close to the same thing. They want a woman who is beautiful, intelligent, independent, strong family morals....blah, blah, blah....This is what they say, what the say to hook you in and make you fall for them but as soon as you're in a serious relationship the script flips. Now, I'm not saying that there aren't guys out there whom when they say that's what they want then that's what they mean ( I happen to be married to one of those very few), and if you are happy with your marriage/relationship then this doesn't apply. This is for all of those women (or men) out there who were drawn in by the smooth talk and then by a simple twist of fate are stuck in a relationship where their partner treats them like they aren't worth the Charmin Extra Soft they wipe their butt with.(bonus points if anyone can tell me what movie that line is from)<br />
I only feel like I have license to discuss this because I was one of those women. I was young and stupid and I met a man (ok he really wasn't a man mentally but he did have a penis so I have to give him the benefit of the doubt) and I was promptly swept off of my feet by all the sweet talk and the words of "I love you for you." I followed him everywhere and at first I was having fun, but then the rumors started. I would hear left and right that he was cheating on me and I could never bring myself to believe it. I denied everything I heard and married him despite the fact that I had the proof that he cheated on me at least once, the one time he admitted to, and I foolishly thought that things would change after we got married. Six years of relationship, two of which were marriage, ended in divorce a month and a half after our second anniversary. I found out not to long after that he had cheated our entire relationship with a number of different women. I wasn't surprised and I am a stronger woman for the whole experience. The problem with our relationship (or to quote Dane Cook,"relation-shit") I never changed. I never changed the person I was. I was independent and did things on my own with or with out his "permission". That was always one thing he said he hated about me, my "Goddamn Independence". He always said he never felt like I needed him and that's what drove him to be unfaithful. I threw out the bullshit card.<br />
Frist of all, I want to tell all my readers, don't let him/her change who you and what you are. If that other person can't love you for who you are and all the little quriks that go along with that then they aren't worth your time. The same goes for you, if you can't love that other person despite all of their little annoyances the it's not really love and it won't last. We can't love parts of a person, we have to love the person as a whole, for everything that are now and will be in the future. Secondly, alot of relationships have drama, but there's good drama and then there's bad drama. Good drama, your partner hates a specific habit you have like, oh let's say not pushing the chairs back up to the dinner table. (GUILTY!!! I never do it and it drives the hubby nuts!!!) Bad drama, ex-girlfriends/boyfriends or random people telling you they saw your significant other with another person doing things that should not be done. (cheating, stealing,...etc) If you have to deal with ALOT of the bad kind then despite the fact that they tell you nothing happened, it had to come from somewhere. If this happens, then I unfortunatly have to tell you that your best bet is to end it. Its gonna hurt because you love this person ( or at least think you do, once you find THE ONE you will realise that you really didn't)and you thought you could trust them. If you are reading this and you have to question anything about your own relationship then you are currently sitting in the same boat I was years ago. You can't change the other person and they shouldn't try to change you. I've said it before and I will say it again, if they can't love you for you and you can't love them for who they are then its time to call it quits. Its going to suck and its going to hurt but if you learn from it then it will make you a better stronger person. And number three, always learn from your experiences. If you have a rough couple of years with someone and you don't take anything from it, then I consider that a great loss. We can learn alot from destroyed relationships. (I realise that "destroyed" is a strong word but that's how a break-up feels right?) We can take all the mistakes that were made in a previous relationship and try not to make them in the current one. We can better ourselves, not change ourselves but better ourselves. You can take a lesson away from every relationship to make the next one better. I promise you that it works and long as you believe it will. You can come out of a broken relationship a stronger person as long as you realise what truely went wrong and learned something from it. I will admit that it is a very humbling experience but you will be all the better for it in the end.<br />
So I will end this with this; don't ever be afraid to be youself. Bare your soul to the other person and if they can't appreciate it then they aren't worth the time and energy that you are willing to give them. Don't be afraid to fall in love and give it your all. I truely believe that there is one someone out there for everyone and its up to us to do the work and find that person. Someone who will love us for who we are and who we are going to be.Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-14530989775986294722011-11-19T09:29:00.000-08:002011-11-19T09:29:07.665-08:00Kimmy K. Should Have Read This First..... Marriage.....A big word for some and lately just something to do when you get bored. This is what my first subject of this blog is going to be about. I figured I would start out tame and once I get a decent following I would get a little more....well you know...that's when we're gonna get down and dirty.<br />
I have come to not so recently realise that most people think that getting married is going to be all champagne and bubbles( yes I am aiming that comment at a certain Kardashian) or that it's just what you do when you have been in a relationship for a few years. First of all, not to burst the happiness bubble that everyone may or may not be in, but no marriage is perfect. It's hard work and definately not easy, but my opinion is if you are willing to try and make it work, put the effort into it then you, as a couple will be okay. Dont' get discouraged if while you were just dating your significant other, you guys didn't ever fight and now that you are married there's bickering, arguing and some days it feels like World War III. I have found out this is what happens when you love that person but you have all the other stress factors of life weighing on your sholders. Mortgages, kids, bills, in-laws, and work can all put a stress on a marriage but its those that are willing to work through it will make it for the long haul. Some days it is World War III...(believe me, it has been at my house) and other days your relationship would make even the most die hard of Twilight lovers tell you to get a room. Now, I'm going to give you the secret to a good marriage.....(dramatic pause for amazement) oooooohhh ahhhhhh....Communication. Yay!!! No that you all have it, use it. Talking to your partner is the key. Tell them how you feel, don't keep secrets and don't hold anything back. Noew I know that you're thinking "But what if what I say hurts them or what if I don't want to hear wht they have to say?" My answer to that is; Yes some of what you say may hurt and some of what is said to you may hurt but in the long run it makes for a better understanding of the person you decided to spend the rest of your life with.<br />
The second secret, which shouldn't really be a secret at all, is wait to get married. I believe that you should spend at least a year LIVING together before you get married. Not just a year together, but a year living together. (I'm once again going to warn you all that these are my personal opinions and not something that is scientifically proven. Just things that I have found out with my own experiences and others agree with me on.) You don't ever really get to know a person until you lived with them for a while. I don't care if your partner is a neat freak now, once you get married you get to see what happens behind the scenes when you weren't around before. The reason their place is so clean everytime they have you come over is because they have shoved everything in a closet or cupboard. Trust me. Once you marry them you get to really see the disaster that they are used to living in. Clothes all over, dirty dishes....etc...Before you crinkle your nose at the thought remember that they will get to see all of your bad habits too. Yes you have them because you do the same thing that they do when you come over for a visit. (Or booty call, whatever your preference.) Throw it all in a closet and hope the door closes. Living with eachother before you get married (and yes I know it goes against most religious beliefs but thats a rule that needs to be thrown out.) gives you the time to either learn to comprimise with the other persons habits and if you don't want to do that then you can say you gave it the old college try but it just didn't work. It may be a harsh reality to call off a relationship because of habits but if you can't somehow find a way to comprimise and incorporate those habits into your life when you aren't married you sure as hell won't be able to do it when you do get married. Small little annoyances can make or break a marriage. It's all how you, as a couple, handle the situation.<br />
Now, another peice of advice before this already lengthy blog ends......if you are in a good relationship and are happy with the person you are with, don't just run out and get married because you think you have to. Nothing says that marriage is a must. Most will just say that getting married is a piece of paper, it's funny how that piece of paper can change everything. The basic motto "if its ain't broke, don't fix it" is a great one to follow if you're already happy with things they way they are and don't want to change them. In closing, your relationship is what you make of it, I just hope I was able to give a little insight to help make it a little better.<br />
Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261463386519385959.post-88446695131164780122011-11-11T19:28:00.000-08:002011-11-11T19:28:06.388-08:00The Beginning So to those of you that know me, I am a huge fan of Sex And The City. I would also like to think of my self as an aspiring writer. (Though how good I am is left up to the reader of the writing.) As I have watched season upon season of the show I have come to wish that our little local newspaper had a witty column about men, women, sex, dating, marriage and children. Then I came to the realization that in my dinky little town in nowheresville Michigan that would probably never happen. ( sex seems to be a big taboo in small towns) So I decided that if my town wasn't ready for it the internet would be because, hell, what can't you find on the internet these days? So the idea of this blog was born. <br />
I have been debating for a while now whether or not to actually see if I could do it and get a following but if I don't try I will never know right? One good reason for the debate that has been plagueing my brain is there may be advice given in this blog if it really takes off and I didn't want to be responsible for someone taking my advice and then if things went badly blaming or (eek!!!) sueing me. So I will lay the disclaimer down now.....I am not a licenced therapist or psychologist. Any advice given is strictly for entertainment purposes and is not to be taken seriously. I am not responsible for any advice taken literally or the outcomes thereof. You, as the reader, can make your own decisions and therefore you are responsible for changes that you bring upon yourself in your own life.<br />
There, now that the legal jargon is laid down I am asking you,(hoping that there is someone reading this) to give me some topics of discussion. Things that you would like to read about, or at least read what I have written about. Once I get some ideas I will try to post a new blog once a week. Keep in mind I am not shy and will talk about anything that you would be interested in hearing about. Get creative. for those faint of heart, God only knows whatthe human mind can think of so be aware that we may be talking about things that make the normal human blush, maybe even cringe, so read at your own risk. Until then Ideas Please!!!! anything you want, no limits!!! Until then my friends..............Celtic Gypsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02381514283848733417noreply@blogger.com0