The name of the title of this blog may be a little silly for the topic, but hey why can't we have some silly in our lives? I named it super fight because I'm going to get in to the differences between fighting as a dating couple and as a married couple. To those of you that read this regularly that aren't married: Yes there is a difference between the fights. Married fighting is waaaayyyy more interesting.
When you are in a long term relationship with someone there are bound to be fights. You have two people that iregardless how similar they are they still have alot of differences and when you get both parties in the same room on a bad day an argument will form. Angry words will be said, insults thrown, (along with maybe an inanimate object)and majority of the time the couple loses steam and forgets what they are arguing about. In that event they make up until the next argument where all of a sudden the topic of the previous fight rears its ugly head. The funny part about this is that originally the man (once again the term used loosly) will forget he topic of the fight which instigates the making up but when the new fight starts even weeks later he is the first one to bring up what the first fight was about. The answer to why this happens still baffels women all over the world. Men will forget birthdays, anniversarys, and other mundane activities but they will remember why you two argued about 6 months ago. This is besides the point and maybe a topic for another day, today we are going to get into married fighting and why its more fun than fighting when you're not married.
Couples that have been together for a couple of years but are unmarried fight just as much as everyone else. Arguing in a relationship is healthy as long as it doesn't get violent. They fight about work, paying bills, and other stupid little things that don't involve anything more intense than "he forgot to give me money for rent, therefore I hate him." I'm not saying that couple in a relationship doesn't really get into good fights but the topics start getting a little thin and neither party wants to bring anyhting real serious into the fight because the possibility of a break-up is always there. They usually keep the fights to being angry because the house is messy, not having enough money from the other individual to help pay the bills or boyfriend/girlfriend being out too late with their friends while the other stays home. The days long drag out fights where the couple spends a couple of days not speaking to the other is usually a good signal of the relationship coming to an end. A lot of couples end their years long courtships over one supermassive fight. Both parties take their things and go their seperate ways. Short, sweet, simple, done. Just like pulling off a band-aid. Married couples, its a completely different world.
When married people fight they fight over all the same stupid things that every other couple fights over but there are joint bank accounts and families involved. When you're married the fights usually don't result in any form of break-up unless there are adulterers present or there is violence. The days long drag out fights are marathons frought with mumbled insults, snide comments and other creative ways of torturing the other person with out actually looking at them or talking to them in any way. Sometimes us married folk even result to practical jokes to make the other person look as ridiculous as possible in front of other people with out those people even knowing that the married couple is arguing. Married people also have the ability to drag the other persons family into the argument. One of my favorite quotes by Jeff Foxworthy when he talked about this same topic was "well I guess we'll just live like your fat alcoholic mother then..." And oddly enough comments like that are not far from the truth. When married people run out of insults for the other person we immediatly turn on the others family. It doesn't matter if we love our in-laws they are usually the first ones on the chopping block and we work our way through the list of family members. We think of as many ridiculous insults that we can to not even prove a point but try to make our partner as angry as possible. Secretly I think we like to get a good heated argument going because when the apologies are handed out and we make up the make up sex is amazing. Most of us forget our inhabitions in the heat of the moment and will do some pretty crazy things that we will never admit to later on. So as you can see good things do happen because of fighting.
So in closing, as long as the fighting is productive its a good thing. (especially if there is make up sex involved!!!) And if you're married and you guys have already dragged the whole faily in then get creative. Come up with as many ridiculous insults that you can you guys might end up laughing instead of fighting!!! Until next week........
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