This has been a common debate amongst the female population. Don't believe me? I heard a debate about it on my favorite morning radio show!! Do women like a hairy man or would we prefer that they waxed (or shaved) it all off. Well the answer to that lies with the woman. It's their choice. Yes, I realize that men have the choice but if they know what we like they are more than likely to do what we want. Why? Because if we like it then they're going to get laid. (don't deny it you know they will.) It depends on the woman on what they find sexier.
The hair debate has been going on for ages and I'm pretty sure has been talked about on every women's gossip show on the planet at one point in time. Do women prefer their men to have body hair or not? My personal opinion? I love it! Now, I'm not talking gross hairy, I don't like if a man is so hairy he would rival Chewbacca. I don't wanna live with a Sasquatch. All I'm talking about is hair on the chest, a little down to the belly button and maybe a little on his back. The hair on the chest has to have a decent covering too, not just a few little hairs that they are proud of, but an even covering. Maybe a little showing out of the collar of their shirt but you don't want to see what looks like a small kitten trying to escape. The back hair should be there but just on the shoulder blades, maybe down the sides a little, and not thick. You don't want to have enough there to be able to brush and style. Just enough that you know its there. Now, if you're like me and you love everything I have just described, a man with these attributes will completely irresistible to you. I believe that the hair makes the man, you are not a real man unless you have it. The first time i saw my husband take his shirt off I was in awe and a completely changed woman. I used to be a girl that thought chest hair was gross. Just the thought of it made me just....ewwwwww. Then that first time he took his shirt off I was never more turned on in my life. He had hair on his chest and I was just unbelievably just....wow. I was literally speechless. I was converted and I loved it. I do understand that there are guys out there that just can't grow any hair on their chest. I knew a guy that could only grow three hairs and that's it. That doesn't make them any less of a man because of genetics. That simply puts them into the group of guys that women who don't like the hair.
There are a lot of women out there who unlike myself and a few others would prefer a smooth hairless chest, back and otherwise. Now I can see the attraction, with a hairless chest you get to see the true muscle definition and you can lay your head on his chest with out having hair in your face. If he tans, his chest will tan evenly with out hair getting in the way. The six pack abs that he might have will be truly visible. I can vision all of you ladies now just picturing what I have described and I can guarantee that at one point in the thought you just had you either licked or slightly bit your bottom lip or both. Don't be embarrassed. We all do it. Every single one of has, does and still will. Even those of us, like me who prefer the hair, can appreciate the view. The guys will make sure they stay that way too, because they know that if their girl looks at them that way they have the excellent possibility of getting some of the best sex of their lives. And you know they do. Guys will put themselves through the pain of waxing, razor burn from shaving and try hair removal creams to keep us satisfied if that's what we like. They're not completely dumb. (a little but not totally)
So in closing, I know that this one is a little short and that's why I am going to leave things open for discussion!!! Let me know what you prefer and why. Tell your friends to read this and have them comment. Who knows there may be a part two to this blog.....Until then.......
Saturday, February 25, 2012
Sunday, February 12, 2012
For the Love of a Nerd
I know what you are thinking by reading this title.....ewwwww nerds!!!! That's right this whole blog today will be about the people we call "nerds" and how they are greatly underestimated. Being considered a nerd myself all through high school, (at least I thought I was....) I can almost call myself an expert on the subject. A lot of people still consider me a nerd to this day because of the interests and hobbies that I enjoy. What people don't know is that those we consider nerds are probably some of the best friends that you can have and in a lot of cases the best lovers. (speaking from a girls perspective about nerdy guys....really not sure about the other way around.)
So like I said, all through high school I thought myself to be considered a nerd. I was smart, did my own thing and never really hung out with the popular crowd. Take all of those factors into account and the label was formed. None of my friends were considered popular either...."nerds" as well. We did our own thing and had a great time. As I got older I reconnected with my high school best friend ( yes a guy) and we ended up dating and getting married. "Awwwwww you married your high school sweetheart..." Yes, yes I did and I have never been happier. My husband was a part of our group of "nerds" in high school and after getting to really know him I found out just how far the nerdyness went.
He is BIG in video games and probably has played every game on the planet at least once at one point in time or another. He is really big into role playing, not the same role playing that you are thinking of, but role playing like dungeons and dragons. I have to admit I kinda giggled when I heard that until he got me to play once and now I'm hooked. I know that you are laughing right now but when you have an overactive imagination like I do this game is perfect. Its not much different from playing video games but its all on paper and using your imagination rather that relying on a computer to add all your traits and scores for you. I usually describe it to people as a group of people sitting around a table telling a story. You have worksheets to keep track of items, traits, hit points, weapons and other various things that help you character you created and are playing. There are dice involved, not just regular six sided dice that we are all used to but like ten and twenty sided ones that I had never seen nor did I know they existed until I started playing. You get as many people that you can and have a blast. You'll never know how fun it is until you try it once. He was big into Warhammer which is role playing but you buy and make the little figurines and the landscapes on which to play. This is all done on table top. I never got into playing the game but I loved sitting down and painting the figurines. He loves to read and between the two of us we have enough books to stock a small library. He doesn't dress in the latest fashions instead , he wears what he is comfortable in. So according to the stereotype of nerd, he fits the profile. What most don't know is that even though he is a guy and still has a little bit of those guy tendencies, he's an amazing husband. He's loving, caring, supportive and last but not least amazing in the sack!!!
The point I want to make here is, a lot of us girls don't give the "nerdy" guys a chance because they aren't popular, aren't always the handsomest and some are into stuff that we turn our noses up at because we are afraid to stray from the norm and try new things. So, we continue to push our loyal nerd guy friends off to the side and go for the "popular" guy. You know, handsome, athletic, six pack and an ego that rivals the size of Jupiter type of guy that ALWAYS breaks your heart. (mostly because his ego is the size of Jupiter!!) Then we wonder what we did wrong. What we did wrong is push the nice guy away (nerd) and go for what society tells us is beautiful. I have been hanging out with my husband and all of his friends for almost ten years and I don't think I have ever met a more friendly, loyal, and down to earth crowd in my life. They met me once and instantly they accepted me no questions asked and would be there for me if I ever needed anything. That's how it should be for everyone. This world would be a better place if we were all accepted for who we are and not who we should be.
I also know that those guys we consider nerds might not be the handsomest boys on the planet but if you find them sexy then who cares what other people think?? I used to be picked on all the time by a girl I used to work with about my husband. She didn't know what I saw in him. I didn't care. Yes he may be a red head with a temper to match, covered in freckles from head to toe, not have six pack abs and have a chest covered in hair, but I still find him irresistble. (and aren't real men supposed to have hairy chests and not shaved ones anyway??) As long as he's as fantastic as he is to me and I find him sexy, bullocks to what everyone else thinks. I have also come to find out that nerds can also be better lovers than your average man. They are more concerned with what they are doing and how they are making you feel rather than most guys who are in a race with you to have an orgasm and how they look doing it. Nerds, at least from my experience, like to make sure you are satisfied before they worry about themselves. They also like to cuddle. Now I want to reiterate that this doesn't cover all nerds and there are probably some out there that are just like your regular to average douchebag. I am only going by my experiences.
So in closing, in the words of Bob Dylan (well not exactly), all I am saying is give nerds a chance. You might be surprised at what you find......until next time......
So like I said, all through high school I thought myself to be considered a nerd. I was smart, did my own thing and never really hung out with the popular crowd. Take all of those factors into account and the label was formed. None of my friends were considered popular either...."nerds" as well. We did our own thing and had a great time. As I got older I reconnected with my high school best friend ( yes a guy) and we ended up dating and getting married. "Awwwwww you married your high school sweetheart..." Yes, yes I did and I have never been happier. My husband was a part of our group of "nerds" in high school and after getting to really know him I found out just how far the nerdyness went.
He is BIG in video games and probably has played every game on the planet at least once at one point in time or another. He is really big into role playing, not the same role playing that you are thinking of, but role playing like dungeons and dragons. I have to admit I kinda giggled when I heard that until he got me to play once and now I'm hooked. I know that you are laughing right now but when you have an overactive imagination like I do this game is perfect. Its not much different from playing video games but its all on paper and using your imagination rather that relying on a computer to add all your traits and scores for you. I usually describe it to people as a group of people sitting around a table telling a story. You have worksheets to keep track of items, traits, hit points, weapons and other various things that help you character you created and are playing. There are dice involved, not just regular six sided dice that we are all used to but like ten and twenty sided ones that I had never seen nor did I know they existed until I started playing. You get as many people that you can and have a blast. You'll never know how fun it is until you try it once. He was big into Warhammer which is role playing but you buy and make the little figurines and the landscapes on which to play. This is all done on table top. I never got into playing the game but I loved sitting down and painting the figurines. He loves to read and between the two of us we have enough books to stock a small library. He doesn't dress in the latest fashions instead , he wears what he is comfortable in. So according to the stereotype of nerd, he fits the profile. What most don't know is that even though he is a guy and still has a little bit of those guy tendencies, he's an amazing husband. He's loving, caring, supportive and last but not least amazing in the sack!!!
The point I want to make here is, a lot of us girls don't give the "nerdy" guys a chance because they aren't popular, aren't always the handsomest and some are into stuff that we turn our noses up at because we are afraid to stray from the norm and try new things. So, we continue to push our loyal nerd guy friends off to the side and go for the "popular" guy. You know, handsome, athletic, six pack and an ego that rivals the size of Jupiter type of guy that ALWAYS breaks your heart. (mostly because his ego is the size of Jupiter!!) Then we wonder what we did wrong. What we did wrong is push the nice guy away (nerd) and go for what society tells us is beautiful. I have been hanging out with my husband and all of his friends for almost ten years and I don't think I have ever met a more friendly, loyal, and down to earth crowd in my life. They met me once and instantly they accepted me no questions asked and would be there for me if I ever needed anything. That's how it should be for everyone. This world would be a better place if we were all accepted for who we are and not who we should be.
I also know that those guys we consider nerds might not be the handsomest boys on the planet but if you find them sexy then who cares what other people think?? I used to be picked on all the time by a girl I used to work with about my husband. She didn't know what I saw in him. I didn't care. Yes he may be a red head with a temper to match, covered in freckles from head to toe, not have six pack abs and have a chest covered in hair, but I still find him irresistble. (and aren't real men supposed to have hairy chests and not shaved ones anyway??) As long as he's as fantastic as he is to me and I find him sexy, bullocks to what everyone else thinks. I have also come to find out that nerds can also be better lovers than your average man. They are more concerned with what they are doing and how they are making you feel rather than most guys who are in a race with you to have an orgasm and how they look doing it. Nerds, at least from my experience, like to make sure you are satisfied before they worry about themselves. They also like to cuddle. Now I want to reiterate that this doesn't cover all nerds and there are probably some out there that are just like your regular to average douchebag. I am only going by my experiences.
So in closing, in the words of Bob Dylan (well not exactly), all I am saying is give nerds a chance. You might be surprised at what you find......until next time......
Friday, February 3, 2012
Must Love Kids.....This one's for you Boys.....Pay Attention.
How many of you ladies out there are single moms? How many of you have found a great guy that you can connect with but as soon as they find out you have children they stop calling and just become someone you once knew? I haven't ever experienced this myself, but I have several friends that have. I'm sending this blog out to all you guys out there. Girls, if you are in a relationship with a man and had kids already when you two got together, make him read this.....it's gonna be full of some good stuff. So you go out one night, for the first time in what feels like forever because finding a babysitter is hell, to have a good time with your friends. On this venture you meet what you believe is a charming and handsome prince, you guys have a couple of drinks and exchange numbers so that you can get together again. Over the next few weeks you go out to dinner, movies and all the other things that two people getting to know each other do. After about the third or fourth date the topic that most guys try to avoid comes up and you make it known to him that you have a child (or children). One of two things at this point will happen, the chicken shit man will in so many words say its been nice knowing you but he's not the biggest child advocate. Then he will be a coward and not even give the relationship a chance. The brave man will accept this twist in his reality and tell you he wants to be with you despite the fact that you have kids and will want to eventually meet them. The hard part is finding the right time for this man to meet your little ones. You're excited that he has accepted you and your life that way it was dealt to you, but you are also apprehensive because of the attachment your children will feel for this man over time should everything between you two work out. If things don't work out and a break-up ensues, these tiny humans have no understanding for what happened. Break-ups for children can be devastating, they don't understand why mommy and this man they have come to admire can't live together and get along. All I can say is, if you are going to have this man meet your children make sure that you both agree that you are going to give the relationship a good try. To all of the men that were made to read this same goes for you, if you really think that you can make it work with this amazing woman then by all means discuss with her a good time and place to meet her little ones. You have to ease into it and be prepared for these tiny people to hate you and/or be really shy.
Now to all of you boys out there, make sure and I mean absolutely certain that meeting your girlfriends children is really what you want to do. Once you meet them and they warm up to you, (guaranteed that it will probably only take a couple of minutes) they are going to begin to look up to you and learn things from you. They are going to see you as a role model, someone that they can ask questions, someone to play games with and possibly a best friend. They will always have their biological father but depending on the circumstances between their mother and father, you are looking at being a big part of their lives. You have the opportunity to teach them different things, helping them with their homework, playing games with them and helping them with their problems if they want you to. If you and their father get into any arguments, and its bound to happen especially if you move in with their mother, don't let it get out of hand in front of the kids. It might hurt your pride to take the high road and keep your mouth shut but its more important for them to see you acting like a mature adult and handling things with out screaming, yelling, or violence. This same golden rule applies when you get into an argument with their mother. (Applies to you too ladies!!!) They are bound to see the two of you fight but keep it to a dull uproar. They are great receptors for stress and can feel it sometimes before we do, seeing two people they love fight and say hurtful things to each other gives them doubts of their place in the world. They begin to think that its because of them why you guys are fighting. If you know an argument is coming, wait until they go to bed and keep the yelling to a minimum so that they don hear you. Its better for them and in turn, better for you.
So in closing, ladies if you have children and are considering letting your boyfriend meet them don't make the decision lightly. If he keeps pressuring you, tell him to back off and explain the nature of the situation to him. Sometimes boys need things spelled out for them. Guys, if you have a girlfriend with children, give her time and let her be sure that meeting her kids is a good decision for them. She doesn't love you any less but she has one or more other people to think about besides herself, she want to be sure shes making good choices for them. Last but not least, I realize that all of this can be reversed and the guy can have the kids and the girlfriend wants to meet his children. All the same rules apply!!! Patience and good choices for these tiny humans is what is ultimately important. With that said.....until next time..........
Now to all of you boys out there, make sure and I mean absolutely certain that meeting your girlfriends children is really what you want to do. Once you meet them and they warm up to you, (guaranteed that it will probably only take a couple of minutes) they are going to begin to look up to you and learn things from you. They are going to see you as a role model, someone that they can ask questions, someone to play games with and possibly a best friend. They will always have their biological father but depending on the circumstances between their mother and father, you are looking at being a big part of their lives. You have the opportunity to teach them different things, helping them with their homework, playing games with them and helping them with their problems if they want you to. If you and their father get into any arguments, and its bound to happen especially if you move in with their mother, don't let it get out of hand in front of the kids. It might hurt your pride to take the high road and keep your mouth shut but its more important for them to see you acting like a mature adult and handling things with out screaming, yelling, or violence. This same golden rule applies when you get into an argument with their mother. (Applies to you too ladies!!!) They are bound to see the two of you fight but keep it to a dull uproar. They are great receptors for stress and can feel it sometimes before we do, seeing two people they love fight and say hurtful things to each other gives them doubts of their place in the world. They begin to think that its because of them why you guys are fighting. If you know an argument is coming, wait until they go to bed and keep the yelling to a minimum so that they don hear you. Its better for them and in turn, better for you.
So in closing, ladies if you have children and are considering letting your boyfriend meet them don't make the decision lightly. If he keeps pressuring you, tell him to back off and explain the nature of the situation to him. Sometimes boys need things spelled out for them. Guys, if you have a girlfriend with children, give her time and let her be sure that meeting her kids is a good decision for them. She doesn't love you any less but she has one or more other people to think about besides herself, she want to be sure shes making good choices for them. Last but not least, I realize that all of this can be reversed and the guy can have the kids and the girlfriend wants to meet his children. All the same rules apply!!! Patience and good choices for these tiny humans is what is ultimately important. With that said.....until next time..........
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